EFT for Codependency | New Book on Kindle | Emotional Freedom Techniques | Tapping

“Finally… How To Heal Years Of Emotional Abuse And Codependency In Under 3 Minutes… Just By Tapping With Your Fingers!”

 Sounds Impossible? Stay With Me As I Show You How This Form Of ‘Acupuncture Withoutthe Needles’ Has Helped Thousands Of People Around The World Find Emotional Relief From Their Problems… Even Those That Have Bothered Them For Years!

 From the desk of:

Jeanette P. Bailey, MA, MHRS, EFT-CC

San Diego, California

Dear Friend,

I don’t know how you stumbled upon this page.

Maybe you came here through Google, hoping to find a solution to your emotional problems.

Or maybe a friend recommended that you check this out.

Whatever your reasons or problems are, I know one thing for sure.

I know you want relief. You want an end to the years of emotional suffering and pain that have plagued you. You want an answer to your problems, fast.

Sadly, modern forms of therapy have conditioned us into thinking that recovery is a slow andpainful process. We have been led to believe that since our issues have affected us for so many years, it takes years of therapy and treatment to “undo the damage”.

That’s why countless individuals spend years in and out of therapy for codependency and other related issues, never really finding the true emotional relief they seek. Others find themselves constantly being drawn into dysfunctional relationships, repeating their earlier patterns of abuse or trauma.

But what if there’s a way to…

Collapse And Resolve Your Emotional Problems

In Minutes Instead of Years?

Would you be willing to at least give it a try?

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I know this sounds like a great promise. But first let me share my own experiences.

From the age of 14 to 17 I was in the foster and group home system. I went through an abusive and traumatic childhood which left me with a poor self-image, constant fear and abusive voices in my head.

When I was old enough to strike it out on my own, I went to college, got my degree and vowed to help others who were suffering like me. In my desperation, I tried everything from hypnosis, metaphysics, religion, self-help to psychic healings but nothing worked to relieve the pain from my abusive childhood.

I later went into social work and became a counselor, and while my education helped me to dissolve some of the emotional trauma from my earlier years… I still found myself getting into dysfunctional & codependent relationships.

Frustrated, I took up a Master’s Degree in Psychology to “figure it all out”. While the intellectual side of me understood why I kept getting “stuck”… I made very slow progress emotionally.

Old fears and insecurities still came back to haunt me.

I didn’t seem to be making much headway until one day…

I Heard About This Silly Method Of

Tapping On Parts Of My Body With My Fingers!

 The first time I heard this, I almost fell off my chair.

Years of traditional training in psychology and counseling told me “it can’t possibly be THAT easy!”

I was incredulous, but also desperate.

Like you, I wanted complete relief from my problems. Not just partial relief where I felt good for a few days or weeks, and then find myself hitting rock bottom emotionally again.

I was willing to give this a try, no matter what it took.

Fortunately, this method took very little.

Developed and fine-tuned by Gary Craig, a retired engineer who holds an engineering degree from Stanford, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) as it is called involves tapping on a series of meridian points on various parts of the body.

Because these energy meridian points correspond to those used by the 8,000 year old ancient healing art of acupuncture from the East… it has been called…

Acupuncture For The Emotions Without Needles!

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The science behind EFT is simple.

Whenever we experience an unwanted emotion (such as feelings of despair, fear, worthlessness, anger, resentment), there is a disruption in the body’s energy system. This disruption in turn can be relieved by tapping on specific meridian points, such that the unwanted negative feeling is dissipated.

EFT excited me for two main reasons. First, it takes someone less than 15 minutes to pick up the basic version of EFT which they can then use on themselves to solve a variety of emotional problems.

Second, it is a non-invasive form of therapy that “cuts through” all the emotional issues or trauma and deals directly with your unwanted emotions. Conventional therapy attempts to do the opposite – By trying to dissolve the issues that give rise to the emotions, or by having an individual “re-live” the traumatic episodes.

But there was one remaining problem.

While EFT has worked successfully for phobias to even curing headaches, no one has applied EFT to codependency before. That’s when I decided to try it out for myself. I started applying EFT to my codependency issues and immediately felt…

 A Deep, Profound Shift That Years Of Conventional Therapy Failed To Provide!

That was when I knew I had found THE way that worked. And that my application of EFT to codependency issues has the potential to help thousands of sufferers around the world.

If you have read until here, you must be interested to learn how EFT works, and how you can experience it for yourself.

Fortunately, EFT is free. It costs nothing for you to learn and anyone can pick it up in as little as 15 minutes.

However… here’s why you would want some guidance when applying EFT to codependency issues:

• EFT deals with one “aspect” of a problem at a time. For example, if you are feeling angry at an abusive father, then one round of EFT tapping (less than 3 minutes) is aimed at dissolving the anger you’re feeling.
• After a single round of EFT, a few things can possibly happen. If you’re like most people, your anger would have totally diminished to zero, or it might be of a lesser intensity. This is where you can do subsequent rounds of EFT tapping to further lower the intensity of this negative feeling.
• Typically, those with codependency issues experience a range of unwanted feelings and negative emotions (ranging from anger, guilt, self-hatred, resentment to hopelessness).

To ensure that all the related issues surrounding your codependency are properly taken care of, you must know what “aspects” of your problem to applyEFT on…

 Here’s Where My “Emotional Freedom Techniques For Codependency Recovery” Guide Comes In Handy…

Written by a trained and experienced EFT practitioner with a Master’s degree in Psychology who has successfully overcome my own codependency problems (and help others do the same), I have identified one hundred and twenty-three traits & symptoms commonly associated with codependency.

While you may be aware of some of these predominant negative feelings, the list also brings out many “aspects” of codependency you may be unaware of. These may include feelings you have suppressed over many years that can potentially cause blocks in your road to recovery. Complete identification of traits is important to ensure a full recovery.

Here’s how this works:

1. You first take the before self-assessment to see where you are now. Then you go through each one of the 123 common traits / symptomsof codependent individuals I have identified and tick the statements that apply to you. For example, “I feel inner rage boiling up” may apply to you while “I’m a perfectionist” may not.
2. Beside each statement that applies, you write down its intensity, or how true the statement feels for you on a 1 – 10 numeric scale.
3. Finally, I will guide you by hand and take you through the EFT process for each of the relevant symptoms… and have you record the amount of relief you feel after each round of tapping.
4. Lastly, I will take you through 495 Empowering Recovery Statements choosing the ones you want as your new decisions…and have you record the amount of empowerment you feel after each round of tapping.

Besides giving you tangible action steps to work on, learn:

• How EFT has been successfully used by psychologists, licensed therapists and even health professionals to relieve mental and even physical conditions… and how you can apply these lessons to your own codependency issues.
• The hidden root cause of codependency and why it can be extremely destructive if left unchecked
• Why our innate human need to bond with other individuals results in disruptive, codependent relationships and how you can resolve this with EFT
• How to disrupt the energy patterns that keep getting you back in abusive and traumatic relationships
• How to use EFT (I show you the exact words to use) to develop a greater sense of self-awareness, such that you are instantly aware of dysfunctional, abusive individuals before they have a chance to affect you!
• What to do about feeling drained by certain people and yet still feeling drawn to them like it’s your mission to make them happy – when all they ever do is to criticize you, stirring up your feelings of not being good enough? (I show you how to deal with this problem in just 3 minutes)
• How the programming we receive during the first 5 years of our lifeaffects the way we operate during adulthood… and how to snap out of this self-defeating cycle
• Are you someone who constantly seeks to please and be approved by others at your own expense? I teach you how to use EFT to get rid of this personality trait permanently.
• Are you afraid “you’ll get into trouble” if you want something good for yourself, or do you feel “selfish” if you care for yourself? EFT can banish these feelings of guilt in an instant.
• Do you feel self-doubt and guilt triggered whenever someone is mad at you, even though you know they are the ones being abusive to you?
• Are you someone who often feels embarrassed or ashamed for no reason and miss out on social opportunities because of it?
• Do you feel that nice, healthy people wouldn’t accept you if they found out how “dysfunctional” you really are?
• Do you feel you can’t get the love you want deep down inside, even though you’re successful in other areas of your life?
• Do you feel that you are non-deserving of the good things that happen in your life… or that you unconsciously push away opportunities? Learn how you can “tap” this away with EFT by using the right statements.
• The truth about sexual issues and why they are so predominant in codependent relationships
• The #1 thing you should do every morning to support yourself in your codependency recovery journey
• What every codependent individual should first establish to avoid sinking into old disruptive habits and patterns
• How to undo the years of guilt and self-hatred you might be experiencing as a result of “wrong” actions you did in the past (If you’re still beating yourself up over the past, this technique will give you instant relief.)
• The truth about seeking help from a “higher power”, and the role this plays in your recovery

 You Can Experience EFT For Yourself
Within The Next 15 Minutes…

 As a counselor, EFT is now a mainstay in my toolbox. I use it all the time with my clients and they can hardly believe the fast relief it brings for their problems… even those that have bothered them for years.

But the point has come where I may not be able to help as many clients as I like in a one-to-one setting… that’s why I wrote this guide to allow you to experience the positive, healing effects of EFT for yourself.

Let’s face it. One reason why EFT is so powerful is because its effects can be instantly felt and experienced by the individual. Only you know how you feel, and you can tell whether your negative feelings have diminished almost immediately.

That’s why I want you to give yourself a chance and try this method out for yourself.

 “Emotional Freedom Techniques for Codependency Recovery  – Learn Simple Meridian Energy Tapping to Quickly Heal Abuse and Codependency”

By

J.P. Bailey, MA

 Get A Copy of my Workbook for just $9.99 on Kindle today, read through it and follow my instructions. It is just like having me, a fellow codependency survivor, in the room with you, guiding you each step along the way. There is nothing invasive about the techniques… just simple tapping as you recite certain phrases which I’ll explain fully in the book.

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 WARNING: This May Be The Last Piece Of Advice

You’ll Ever Need!

I don’t know about you… but EFT was the last recovery tool I needed. It achieved what years of therapy, self-help and “positive thinking” could not do… by dealing directly with my negative emotions as they arose.

I hope to help you do the same too. If you don’t even wish to try this process out for yourself, risk-free today… how much longer are you going to suffer in silence?

Yours truly,

Jeanette P. Bailey, MA

Author

“Emotional Freedom Techniques For Codependency Recovery”

P.S – If you are going to spend more than $9.99 this year on therapy sessions and other treatments… why not do something that has been proven to work in as little as 15 minutes? Remember – If this does not free you from your emotional abuse… you lose nothing!

Listen to what others are saying about “EFT for Codependency Recovery”

“I found Jeanette’s work with EFT to be deeply calming and soothing to the central nervous system. This allowed me to experience my thoughts and emotions in a clearer, more detached way, thereby allowing me to make more empowering choices in my daily life. I especially appreciate the way her work teaches you to learn how to use emotionally centering techniques on your own, whenever you need to remind yourself to address a stressful issue or situation from a new perspective, without simply reverting to old emotional response patterns or outdated coping mechanisms.”

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“Emotional Freedom Techniques For Codependency Recovery”

P.S – (If you are going to spend more than $9.99 this year on therapy sessions and other treatments… why not do something that has been proven to work in as little as 15 minutes? Remember – If this does not free you from your emotional abuse… you lose nothing!)

What Do You TAP On When You Can't Think Of An Issue? Easy.... Check Out A REAL FEELINGS LIST! |EFT Tapping|What To TAP on

What Do You TAP On When You Can't Think Of An Issue?


Easy....

Page 1 is A REAL FEELINGS LIST and the RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS LIST below.


FEELINGS LIST - Grist for the Mill to Tap On When You Can't Thing of Anything!


Print that out and circle every feeling that gives you a little jolt or charge inside.

Notice there are positive feelings too, draw a box around the positive feelings you want more of.

There are some pretty charged words on that list, some may trigger you.... But, if you're done with being stuck with them and you're up for it, circle those words a couple times and get ready to do some Tapping on what they trigger in you so you can get free of them holding you back in life.

Just reading a word that hits the nail on the head, can cause a body sensation and open up Pandora's Box.

Page 2 is "RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS"  which goes perfectly with my Tapping on Codependency book.  For this one, I would suggest listing more than one person for each word that you resonated with.

Remember, you may pick a word you feel now and you're thinking of a recent break-up, but digging deeper, you see you felt the same way about other people in your past, and if you thought about it, you'd inevitably find yourself thinking of a relative that made you feel the same way.

Hooray, you found a pattern, an inner part, an identity, a belief within you that you can heal yourself. You can re-process and re-organize any pattern, part, identity or belief with the right tools.

The fastest way to find out which relative or memory it stems from is to ask yourself, "What does this word remind me of" and have an open mind as you see who or what comes up.

So, you want to TAP on BOTH the recent person that made you feel that way, and the relative that made you feel that way when you were younger, and took it to heart, and started to believe what that must have thought about you.

Recovery Tapping says, "What they think about you is wrong".

Clearing out and healing the Part of you, that up to now, believed they were right, is the key to transformation.

With that belief about yourself gone, you can get back to who you really are, Have compassion for yourself. Be nice to yourself.

Because the present YOU knows the TRUTH about you, and what anyone else thinks of you is of no consequence really because thoughts can't affect you.  Their thoughts..., which you can never hear or know or realize are mostly focused on themselves.  Other people's thoughts can't hurt you.  What you think they believe about you does not have to hold you back.

Once you've circled the words that feel intense or give you a negative charge, then begin one by one tapping on them. I'm sure you know how to tap by now and have already tried it, but if not or you are new, then I suggest you first go back and learn EFT and try Tapping on several things first and see how it works.

Once you have the confidence that with Tapping you can handle any feeling, you're ready to start digging up some old, buried ones.

I hope these feeling word and relationship problem words lists help you to uncover some things that you can start tapping on today that will change your life. I hope that you too can stop the direction they are pushing you in, and instead clear them up and with a clear head, reorient yourself to the here and now and decide what you want.

Knowing what you'd rather have instead is the key to making it happen.  You have to know what you want. Well, its hard to know what you want with all these negative feelings and thoughts in the way. So the trick is to Tap on these one by one, and as you do, you feel neutral or less upset by them, you're thinking is clearer.  You can start choosing what you want instead.  Choose loving yourself. Choose seeing your skills and talents and see yourself in the near future practicing them. Choose self-compassion. Choose to be yourself. Choose to love and accept yourself and be free to do what you really want in life.

Then the real adventure begins. You will still have issues come up, but they'll be new ones, not the old stuff constantly never letting you out of the gate.  When new issues come up now that you're out there living life and taking risks and being yourself more and more, you have tools to deal with them and you keep going.

Living is experiencing.  Experiences are the only thing you can count on to have a least partial control over. You can steer yourself in any direction you want in life. There are stumbling blocks out there, its not always easy, but at least you're in the game instead of hiding out of fear and old emotional stuff holding you back.





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EFT Tapping Booklets and Video Links |Emotional Healing for Wellness and Recovery

To learn EFT Tapping and NLP Ninja is one thing; to practice it daily is another.

To help with that daily practice of emotional healing on the recovery journey, I put together some cheat sheets and made up some booklets, got them scanned in and now ready to upload here for you to be able to click the link below and download them or print them for yourself.


I'm also making a video to explain it just in case there are newbies and to add some tips for those already experienced and now want to keep going with recovery tapping.

It saved my life, it changed my life, for the better, and then later it transformed my life into much better.  It's what I teach my clients and what I want available on my blog because there are millions of suffering victims and survivors who need all the help they can get. This is what I wish I had 20 or 30 years ago.  I feel I learned it so I could eventually teach it to others and that has come true.




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Bike Riding for Wellness | Recovery Tapping Story | And A Healing Dream..

I grew up south of Chicago where, beyond the city, there are dozens of lakes and wood trails to explore.

Then I lived in Southern California where there were tons of beaches, but not many wooded areas that I grew to really miss over the years.

Now, it's such a blessing to live in Northern California where there are tons of bike paths along the rivers, and through the woods again!  It's downright therapeutic. ....It relaxes the mind, ....it exercises the body..., and nature is soothing,... , people are peaceful...  It's healthy and restorative...... Helps your mind process things... or drift off into dreams... organizing thoughts of what's important to you....

I often say my prayers as I start off riding so that I don't even realize I'm

Bike Path Through Woods 

about half a mile down already and it doesn't felt like I did any 'work'.  Then, like a biking meditation, ... I may let my mind wander over thought after thought without resistance or staying on them,....I let thoughts and images go by like a parade...

Then I focus on what I see which are trees, squirrels, birds, ducks, an occasional turtle...walkers, dogs, other smiling bikers.

And my mind relaxes even more.

I focus on my body. I may do a modified version of qi gong while riding, (which are mostly arm stretches).  I adjust my posture... I practice smiling... I'm in my element.., and I start to daydream about my dreams...., my dream of creating a Recovery Tapping center..., teaching anyone whose interested how to heal themselves by learning Emotional Freedom Techniques, and other Energy Healing techniques.


The other night I had a dream...  I dreampt I went over to a girlfriend's house to do an energy healing on her boyfriend who just got diagnosed with cancer. In the dream I suddenly 'woke up' like, and became aware of where I was, and backed out, feeling embarrassed that I just walked in without permission or being invited.

But still it was a cool dream and I shared it later with that girlfriend, who immediately texted her boyfriend and he invited me over!

I showed up with my Energy Medicine Bag and began teaching him about Energy Psychology and Tapping and walked him through several EFT/Tapping Rounds so he could learn it by doing it.

I wanted to teach him how to use these life-altering Emotional Freedom Techniques, not just "do a healing on him".  I like teaching people to heal themselves.

He kept telling me he could feel "a release" as we did each round, and his SUDs numbers were going down on all 3 issues that we Tapped on.

I think I saw a small tear in the corner of his eye.

Earlier I searched for a Tapping script for being told you have Cancer and found one. (EFT Script for Cancer Dx), and he later said it was exactly what he was feeling; he was blaming himself for his cancer and it was a huge relief to be able to work on clearing that.

You have to love and accept yourself to recovery, you can't beat yourself up. You need self-compassion and you need self-empowerment and you need to develop your own Wellness plan.

That is not easy to do when you are riddled with self-blame and guilt and grief and fear.

But once you clear these issues/feelings, one by one, with Tapping (EFT)* , your brain can now think clearer and get back to its natural state of (love, peace, power, choice, courage, etc.) whatever it is for you.  For each person its different because as the negative stuff lifts and clears, the mind naturally starts sorting your thoughts out.

At the same time, since EFT arrested the "Flight or Fight" response, that naturally kicks in the "Calming Response" in the nervous system, which causes the body to calm down, and a general sense of well-being rushes in, as endorphins are released in the brain.

My homework assignment to him, and to anyone willing, is to Tap every day on 1-3 issues.  And do Donna Eden's "5 Minute Daily Energy Routine".  Imagine how many issues you can clear in the next 90 days!  It's like Gary Craig, creator of EFT said, "If issues were trees, it's like you chop down one tree at a time until the whole forest collapses".

I'll go back for a follow-up in 2 weeks and then give him another Energy Healing which doesn't involve tapping which is very powerful.  I call it my NLP Ninja Energy Matrix technique that is a combination of several transformative, healing techniques, including somatic mindfulness, that I've been practicing for many years with awe-inspiring effects.

It tends to put my husband down on the couch for a good nap every time I use it on him and he's much calmer and happier for days afterward...., Ladies, do you hear me?  It works.  You can use it on yourself so you don't react when they push your buttons too.  Its a very handy tool to have in your healing tool box.

But the foundation is EFT Tapping. Why? Because it involves physically tapping on yourself which is an instant Body-Mind action where all healing begins. IMHO/IMHE

Then you "get it" and can easily transition to the non-tapping energy techniques.

Well, its time for my morning bike ride before it gets too hot.  It's suppose to get past 100 degrees today.

Happy Tapping!

=)

 JP

 

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 * Donna Eden's 5 Minute Daily Energy Routine: VIDEO



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Part 6 of 6 | Vidoe| Depression Wellness Coloring Workbook |Recovery Tapping|JP Bailey

Here is the final video, Part 6 of 6 to go with the 6 parts of the Depression Wellness Workbook.

Enjoy.

Link to Part 6 of 6 YouTube Video
 Part 6 of 6 Depression Wellness Training Video

 Take Good Care and Take Wellness Action!

LuvnHugs,
JP



















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VIDEO Part 2 of 6 of the Depression Wellness Coloring WORKBOOK |Recovery Tapping|JP Bailey

 Here's the VIDEO to go with Part 2 of 6 of the Depression Wellness Class and Booklet, which is a free PDF on the blog post right before this one.


Youtube Video Here: Part 2 of 6 Depression Wellness



I assembled it for my "Depression Wellness Art/Coloring" Class that I've been working on for months now.

I have about 140 clients and many of them are depressed. I wanted to assemble all the best hand outs I had collected to give them a workbook for their self-help recovery and wellness. Some of them just don't know what to do or what works.  I did. I spent years studying and collecting them so I could help others by understanding it myself and learning how to heal it in a holistic and integrative way with traditional ways.

It's full of my favorite Goodies that Work!

JP
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This booklet is NOT for sale. It cannot be reproduced and sold for profit. For the main reason that is is a compilation of several other people's stuff and they deserve credit for their work.  It is my "Show-And-Tell" for helping the community become aware of the recovery/wellness material out there that is helping more and more people every day.  I created it for your personal use only as a free and internet alternative for those who can't find help/can't afford it/don't know where to start/scared of the stigma/had no one point out to them what can help/etc.























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Tapping on Codependency | Codependency Recovery | EFT for Codependents

Introducing my New Book available on Kindle now!

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00FGWGGOQ

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Code: Pendent

Recovery Tapping - Tap Out of Fear and Into Choices.

Code: Pendent

Like a secret invisible necklace that is really a Target hanging around your neck.

Like a noose. Breaking the Code of the Pendent requires going within it to the core of yourself, even though the urge is to look outside of yourself.

That's what the Pendent does, as long as it's worn you are powerless to stop focusing on others.

The root of the code is many layers deep. The code is a maze of puzzels. There are clues along the way if one is honest, brutally honest with onself.

It may seem scary at first, you expect your worst fears and deepest shames to turn out to be true and you'll feel even worse.

But that is the curse.

It's like being hypnotized with the suggestions programmed into your mind that once you try to take it off you are triggered to self-destuct

You have been in a trance to blame yourself. To think there is something wrong with you.

This is how the abusers get away with what they do and messing with the mind and emotions of the young.

But once you break the code and take off the target you break the spell.

Because the truth is that you are innocent, not guilty. You did nothing wrong, the shame is not yours. There is nothing wrong with you. I know it's puzzeling.

For you, being a good person, you can't fathom or understand why someone would do bad things to you if it were not your fault. Thinking everyone is a nice or good person deep down inside - like yourself - you have been blinded to the truth of the number of people who are predators, even evil. People with no empathy, no remorese, who only care about themselves, their pleasures, their ego, their control over others.


And codependents have been progrmmed to think it's theier faulth and so they carry around shame and guilt and think badly of themselves and it just gets worse over time. They were they target around their neck. That's why the users, losers and abusers alwasys seem to find them.

They take advantage of your feeling that you aren't good enough. They exploit it.
The first thing you must do to break the spell is to know and declare that you are good. You are good enough. There is nothing wrong with you. No one is completely healthy and you are just fine the way you are.

You must start to take notice of things people say that trigger that old feeling os shame where you feel less valuable than others and want to grovel or cower or be subserviant or self-effacing.

Write those triggers down. Somethings its just a look of distain or a comment of disapproval or a tone of condensation. That's how they get your guard down. The test you and feel you out.

Once they see you deflate a little they know you're a victim, an easy target. And there you go again trying to people-please so they will approve of you, like you, be nice to you again.

You'll be a doormat and do anything for long periods of time, sticking up for them, cleaning up after them, praising them, offering yourself to them until you are in good with them again.

Once you've had enough and are drained and feel tired of it, magically they turn around and turn on the charm again and pull you back in. After the withdrawal of approval the approval and acceptance feels so good it s a high and it's intoxicating and you go right back.

That is the cycle of abuse or codepedency of addiction. The tension, the build up, the climax, the honeymood phase, the withdrawal the tension and on and on.

The only way out is to step out of that cycle. The only way to step out is to be OK with appearing like the bad guy. You can't rescue and your can't fight back and you can't be the victim. You just walk away. Cut your loses and move on.

In order to do that you need to face your own shame and guilt - even if you really didn't deserve it or do anything wrong.

Tapping on shame and guilt will help clear it ip alot faster than any other method. You do a Full-Round on the shame you feel, the feeling that there is something wrong with you, that you are not good enough. Do 3 good Full Rounds on that while you really tune into it. Remember all the times you felt it, the first time you remember feeling that way and it influencing your behavior.

Facing that you are a victim is not easy, it is humiliating, humbling. It's not easy to admist that you werw abused, taken advantage of - And, that you let it happen.

You didn't know any better. That is what you were trained to do, that is what you learned. You can learn new, better, empowering ways to take care of yourself.

Tap on:
"Even though I feel shame about myself, I love and accept myself"
"Even though I feel guilty for every little thing that I don't do right, I love and accept myself."
"Even though I feel I'm not good enough, I love and accept myself."

And then you imagine a shield instead of a target on your chest.

But the trick is to pay attention to any little familiar feeling that reminds you of the way you used to feel and get triggered so that you won't fall for that again.

In the meanwhile, it's time to build yourself up by choosing new thoughts and beliefs and writing them down and repeating them daily or every time you feel like you're about to slip.

One way is to write a list of all your negative thoughts about yourself, and then make another list of the opposite, turning them into positive affirmations.

Make a list of accomplishments and good things about yourself and your life and keep adding to it.

Join a support group that supports you being you the way you are. And increase your self care and get back into hobbies and past times that you used to enjoy. It's time to put the focus on yourself.

Breaking the code of the pendent spell that has been placed on you is only a decidion away. A decision to get honest, decide you don't want to be that way any more, tap on your issues, replace them with empowering affirmations and back it up with self-care actions. Then instead of a target on your chest, you'll have a shield that protects you and has the negativity from predators bounce right off of you and they don't pay any attention to you after awhile, they go look for weaker ones they can exploit and take advantage of.

But if you are tested, even if you have to fake it before you make it, you can Tap on it too, you get comfortable or at least tolerate feeling uncomfortable being the bad guy and not the rescuer who turns into the victim every time someone tries to push your buttons to get their approval.

Approve of yourself.
You're not here for anyone else's approval.

J.P.Bailey, MA, EFT-CC
Emotional Freedom Coach
www.RecoveryTapping.com

Psy-Qi-Soma Spiritual Empowerment Protocol

Recovery Tapping - Heal Your Past - Create Your Future!

The Psy-Qi-Soma Spiritual Empowerment Protocol

This Energy Psychology Protocol is one I developed that I call "Psy-Qi-Soma Energy Empowerment Healing" (PSEEH). Psy for the mind, Qi for energy and Soma for the body. I thought I'd have fun with it and pronouce PSEEH as "see" since the 'p' and the 'h' are typically silent in many English words.

PSEEH was designed to work with the emotional meaning behind the energy points. For example in acupuncture each meridian has an emotional correspondance related to it, both positive and negative. The Lung Meridian is associated with grief and joy. Same with the chakra system of energy; the third eye point is associated with seeing on an inner or higher level or being blind to it.

For the PSEEH Protocol Series I took the postive emotional component and designed a keyword or phrase for each point. Then I matched up an empowering topic such as motivation, self-esteem or weight loss and designed the statement to fit the topic with the emotional keywords in mind, thus giving it an empowering effect.

So for example the Heart Chakra is about Love. In the Motivation Empowerment Protocol the Heart point statement is: I love to be motivated. For the Self-Esteem Empowerment Protocol the Heart statement is: I love to value myself. For weight loss empowerment: I love my body.

Below is my Psy-Qi-Soma Spiritual Empowerment Protocol. The word 'spiritual' can mean many things to many people. I suspect that it means a completely different thing to each and every one of us for we are all unique individuals. That is why I designed the statements with a mixture of spiritual words for you to choose from.

Feel free to substitute any spirtual name with what you are comfortable with. (It does not matter if you say "God", "Higher Power", "Universal Love", "Allah", "Soul", "Spirit", "Angels" etc.) The intention and meaning of spiritual acknowlegement and connection between you, your energy and your spirituality are the same.

Along the left hand side are the meridian and charkra points to Tap on or simply hold or touch, while saying the statements with Spiritual Empowerment in mind. So, without further ado here is...


The PSY-QI-SOMA SPIRITUAL EMPOWERMENT Protocol
by J.P. Bailey, MA


Heart --- I love myself and my Higher Power.
Third Eye --- I see Love in my life.
Eyebrow --- I allow my Soul to be in charge of my life.
Side of Eye --- I choose to have Spirit in my life.
Under Eye --- I trust that my Higher Power loves me.
Under Nose --- I accept God's love and attention into my life.
Chin --- I have God's Love and Wisdom within me.
Collarbone --- I am proud of myself and my intuition.
Under Arm --- God/dess is loving toward me.
Right Rib --- Spirit goes ahead of me and prepares the way.
Thumb --- I have faith that my Higher Power can handle my problems.
First Finger --- I ask God to remove the blocks in my path.
Middle Finger --- I ask the Universal Spirit to co-create with me.
Little Finger --- I love myself as my Higher Power loves me.
Karate Chop --- I decide to Let Go and Let God.
Gamut Spot --- The Life force of the Universe loves me.
Solar Plexus --- Love grounds and centers me.
Crown --- Spirit sends love to me and I am open to receive it.


This is a great way to start your morning prayer and meditations!

Enjoy!

J.P.Bailey, MA, EFT-CC
Mental Health Recovery Specialist
Energy Psychology Practitioner

Recovery Tapping for Emotional Freedom

Recovery Tapping for Emotional Freedom

TAP OUT OF FEAR AND INTO CHOICES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi and Welcome back to Recovery Tapping where we "Tap" (an interesting body-mind technique based on acupuncture) to regain our Emotional Freedom.

Tapping on Emotional Problems releases the emotion so it can resolve itself, as this happens we literally watch them fade away. But what happens then?

We have a spontaneous cognitive shift. I'd like to say it's my brilliant use of tapping and that I'm a natural energy healer and it's all my years as a professional helper at work - but I've seen 10 year old kids pick it up quite fast and get just as amazing results. In fact there is this cute little "Tappy" bear that is for sale. There is a hospital in South American for children with cancer where they use Tappy Bear all the time to bring smiles and emotional relief from the stress of what they are going through.

So, all you have to do it learn the basic technique and that's pretty easy, there's even a short-cut. Memorize the 9-14 points to tap on, and aim it at anything and everything you can think of that causes you problems.

Tap on 10 issues a day and what might you look like in a year?

My entire life has changed around for the better and many others have too.

So what about that cognitive shift, what happens next. Well, once we feel calm about our emotional issue and we've tapped on it our minds can then think it through and we might accept more or feel it's time for a change or time for a new decision.

That's why it's so important to know what you want and know what you would prefer to have instead of this problem.

Dr. Pat Carrington developed the "Choices Method" which is basically tapping on your new choices. After tapping on a problem you then tap on a choice statement, such as, I now choose to take better care of myself more and more every day. You tap on that statement and at the next point you alternate it with the negative 'tail-ender' or aspect that may come up such as, "No, I won't" and you tap on that thought, then on the next point you repeat the new choice and on the next point you tap on the negative "I don't know how, no one ever taught me" and so on until you've done about three rounds and you can clearly tap on the new positive choice without any interference.

Now these are just the basics. I just go over them from time to time for the new readers. You can learn all about EFT for free at emofree.com of course, and you can read my blog posts to find out more about how to use it for codependency recovery.

Many of you have sent emails and some even were brave enough to post comments, I try and answer all emails. I want to thank you for taking the risk and talking about some of the pain you are going through in relationships. It's not easy when you're alone and in pain and have been isolating and depressed for so long.

But I want you to know, Number 1 that you are NOT alone, believe me, there are thousands and thousands of us out there, seek and find each other in groups online and off. There are alot of recovery connections and books to read others struggle.

Number 2 You are OK. You are enough. You are Good Enough.

Just say that to yourself and let it sink in for a change.

Just for today you can be OK and each day a little more. I used affirmations for months that were something like this:

"Every day and in every way I'm getting more and more ok. I'm getting used to being ok. It's ok to feel ok."

Using the words "more and more" and "getting used to" really helped me because after a long depression you really aren't used to feeling ok and you don't know that you could get more and more ok in the beginning of your recovery.

In the beginning you may be numb, angry or feeling nothing but pain. That's good! Feeling is a good thing because that is easy to Tap on. It's when you feel flat and not much of anything that it might be hard to even want to try anything.

But even with that there is a Tapping solution, Tap on "Even though I don't feel anything, I love and accept myself." "Even though I don't feel I love and accept myself, I love and accept myself."

So if you are used to feeling your feelings and processing them you already have an edge. You don't try to cover up the bad feelings by forcing positive affirmations on top of them. You can just go ahead and feel your feelings and tap while you are tuned into them and watch the miracles happen.

But I wanted to get back to some of your questions. Yes, I am still currently working on "Dating in Recovery Part III" and it will be put together with Part I, Part II and Part II continued. I'm making it into a nice little booklet that I will give away for free.

A free gift just for looking at my new site I'm launching for my new book "Emotional Freedom Techniques for Codependency Recovery" which is at www.RecoveryTapping.com.

OK, but what if you're going through hell right now?

There's a quote out there I heard years ago, "When you're going through hell, keep going."

Don't stop and stare.

Keep moving.

Or when in 'the hallway' (when one door closes and another one doesn't open yet), go window shopping or decorate.

Keep tapping.

Things will change and shift - they will anyway, nothing stays the same, but if you actively keep moving yourself then it will change better faster. Movement is life. Everything moves all the time. We never stop moving until we're dead. Flat lines are for dead people, so it's ok if you’re going up and down or spiraling around. Just keep moving.

It's OK to not feel OK. It really is all ok.

So what I've done below is taken a combination of several of your emails and put them together into questions you can ask yourself about being codependent and stuck and then a Tapping statement to tap on.


Do you suffer from people pleasing and feeling guilty?

If so, then tap on "Even though I suffer from people pleasing and feeling guilty all the time, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."

Do you feel guilty for things that do not belong to you or are not really your fault or your responsibility?

"Even though I take on other people's guilt, I love and accept myself."
"Even though I feel guilty just for wanting relief from my guilt, I love and accept myself.

That is just what I learned and I am learning new ways now. From now on I choose to feel free of guilt.

Do you put yourself in harm's way by being around alcoholics/addicts/abusive relatives, rage-aholics, and difficult people?

This is a tough one especially if you live with one. But you can start taking yourself out of the firing range. You can begin to put up a boundary between you and them that doesn't let the hooks dig into you as much. You can learn to focus on yourself rather than on other people's problems. Of course, if someone is being abusive to you start working on a plan to take care of and protect yourself. Start talking to someone about it.

"Even though I'm afraid to talk to anyone about my situation, I love and accept myself."

"Even though I've been hurt and feel stuck and am afraid I'll get hurt again, I love and accept myself."

It's amazing how tapping will help your mind shift into healthier thinking and help you take healthier actions. Take baby steps. Take nano steps if you have to. But keep moving.


Do you take disapproval and criticism very hard? Have you been accused of being too sensitive and emotional as if it's a bad thing? Do you feel nervous around certain family members or critical people?

"Even though I am sensitive and emotional, I love and accept myself just the way I am."

"Even though I feel afraid of critical people, I love and accept myself."

If you have been tapping on these issues, it's time to start asking yourself, "Now, what would I rather have instead?" And start tapping on that new choice after each tapping round.

Do you feel guilty when you do something for yourself?

"Even though I feel guilt when I take good care of myself or don't feel I deserve to treat myself better, I love and accept myself."

"I now choose to feel free and innocent and that it's perfectly fine to take good care of myself. From now on I take better care of myself."

When you start setting boundaries, you may feel awkward at first but you know, as an adult, you have the right to change your mind - even without explaining yourself to anyone.

You can stand firm in just saying, "I've changed my mind." period.

You are not obligated to give answers. You can also say, "I prefer....this or that." "I prefer not to get into this discussion."

You are only obligated to take care of your own needs and your business.

If you volunteer for something you can "unvolunteer" yourself by changing your mind. You can say you have something else to do or simply say you've changed your mind, if you need to, you can say something like, "I'm really sorry but it's just not going to work out for me this time."

When you get in panic mode, tap.

Tap while saying a prayer. Tap while saying the Serenity Prayer.

Tap for strength. Tap for guidance.

Tap for peace.

When a guilt trip is thrown at you, you don't have to take it to heart, you can just take it as a sign that the other person has issues and is reacting. They will even get used to it if you stick to your guns. You will begin to care less and less about what other people think about you as you continue tapping on your worst fears and deepest shame.

If you do decide to set a boundary and take care of yourself better instead, and you feel terrible about it later and guilty and shameful, acknowledge it, tap on it while you're feeling it, it will subside.

Don't go running back to people for forgiveness and end up doing more stuff for them for their approval. Tap on that anxiety first and see what happens.

Don't let anyone talk down to you or talk you down or talk you in or out of something. You can just say, "No, thanks. Have a nice day, gotta go." And walk away.

You can wait and do nothing and listen to your intuition.

Take care of yourself first just this afternoon, just for the rest of today, just for today. Just for an hour put your needs first, they deserve your attention too.

Connect with friends who encourage you to take care of yourself, all else will fall into place.

When you feel trapped, ask yourself what two choices do you feel trapped between? Then ask yourself where did you get only those two choices? Ask yourself what other choices might you have.

What other choices might someone else have in your situation? What would a rebel teenager say about your situation? What would a protective social worker or cop say? What would a wise teacher say? What would a fair, impartial judge say?

What does a brave adventurer say? What about a person with lots of tools, what would they say?

All these people are inside of you and more.

What does your wise self say?

What does your recovery part say?

What would your sponsor or coach say?

Just ask. When you put your fears and problems into questions and ask yourself these types of questions, your brain automatically goes searching for an answer. Sometimes it's easier to give support and advice to someone else than to yourself. So what if someone came to you with the problem you are having and they asked you for your help? What would you say or do for them? That is a good insight to what you can give yourself.

"Even though it's easier to help others than it is to help myself, I love and accept myself."

"Even though I'm afraid and I don't know what to do, I love and accept myself."

Give yourself permission to have choices. Allow yourself to hope but not expect.
Remember, regardless of what other people do or say, your life will continue on with little impact of what others choose to do with their life. Can always choose to let it go.

You can always start your day over.

You can Tap your way to Emotional Freedom, one day at a time.

If your are like me and are tired of the same old codependency books that just tell you how you got it, what the symptoms are and not much else on what to really DO about it to finally clear away the emotional triggers and pattern behaviors - then learn EFT - Energy Tapping and you can start getting clear tonight.

See my free report and my new book I wrote "EFT for Codependency Recovery" at www.RecoveryTapping.com

JP Bailey, MA
Emotional Freedom Coach
www.RecoveryTapping.com

What is Recovery?

WHAT IS RECOVERY?

Depends who you ask.

There are as many answers to that as there are people in it. At last count I read that there were 13 million people "in recovery", but, I have no idea how they figured out that number or where I even read it a few years ago.

What amazes me about all the people (and clients) that have shared their recovery with me, it still amazes me how some recovery 'groups' are likened to religion - that theirs is the only one that works and none of the other ones are real.

We have all learned alot over the last 20 years.

WHAT TYPES OF RECOVERY ARE WE TALKING ABOUT?

There is recovery from an accident, recovery from drugs & alcohol, recovery from child abuse, recovery from rape, recovery from PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder), there's recovery and rehab, recovery from illness, recovery from losing a loved one, etc.

WHAT TYPES OF RECOVERY GROUPS ARE THERE?

12 Step Anonymous Groups refers to itself as a Recovery Program for addictions.

A very new movement that is full of empowering tools calls itself S.M.A.R.T. Recovery or Self-Management And Recovery Training. An alternative or in addition to 12 Step.

Rational Recovery is another group that says it is an alternative to 12 step.

Narc-anon is another. (NOT to be confused with Nar-Anon which is 12 step).

There's that new book on TV that claims to cure alcholism and addiction. Has anyone bought that? I wonder if that works.

There are other types of recovery out there, like Caregivers Support Groups and N.A.M.I. the National Alliance of Mental Illness. They have all sorts of free recovery tools right on their websites.

There are all sorts of community support websites out there, I've been compliling a list I can't even keep track of anymore. As with anything you want to learn more about, google* it or go to Wikipedia* or Bling it.

WHAT ARE SOME EXAMPLES OF RECOVERY GROUPS?

Examples of 12 Step Anonymous Support Groups are:
Alcohol Anonymous
Narcotics Anonymous
Adult Children of Alcoholics
Overeaters Anonymous
Gamblers Anonymous

Mental Health Recovery for depression, schizophrenia and anxiety disorders are using Tools such as the W.R.A.P. that is helping thousands recover from these and more serious conditions of all types.

So guess which Recovery this blog is talking about?

All of the above.

Recovery + Tapping = Hope and Relief.

To Your Recovery!
J.P. Bailey, MA