Saturday, September 3, 2016

F*CK THAT An Honest Meditation for the Rest Of Us | and F*CK IT Advice For REAL Grown Women |Fuck That|Giving A Fuck

 If you don't like the "F" Word - STOP READING NOW!!!

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"13 F*cks You Stop Giving When You're A Grown Woman"
by Amanda Chatel

At some point, you reach an age where you can’t possibly, even if you tried, give any less of a fuck. You’re done with worrying about what others think, adhering to stupid-ass rules prescribed by stupid ass-people, and you realize who you want in your inner circle and who you want banished forever and ever. It’s not that you’ve become a cantankerous bitch in your older years, but just that you’ve lived long enough to be fucking over pretty much everything. In other words, you simply have no more fucks to give.

Are you to that point in your life? Have you been fortunate enough to have reached the ultimate status of having no more fucks to give? If so, then you’ll know these 13 fucks you stop giving to be true.

1. Giving a fuck about other people’s opinions. Gah! Other people’s opinions, especially when they’re about you, should be moot once you’ve become a grown woman. It’s when you let the opinions of others dictate your life that your life becomes a cesspool of negativity and a total waste.
2. Giving a fuck about ridiculous FASHION RULES. No white after Labor Day? Fuck it. No horizontal stripes unless you’re a size 0? Fuck that fucking shit. No bikini or mini-skirt after 30? In the immortal words of Bikini Kill, suck my left one. Seriously.
3. Giving a fuck about your ex. You broke up for a reason and that reason is probably somewhere between him being awful and him being the worst, so it’s your job not to give any fucks about him or what he might think of you.
4. Giving a fuck about being polite in bed. As a grown ass woman, you’re not just a walk-on in your bedroom, but the fucking star. If you don’t get what you want and how you want it, you throw being polite out the window and woman-the-fuck-up about it.
5. Giving a fuck about biting your tongue. While in your earlier years some situations may have called for biting one’s tongue, it’s time to fuck that. If someone says or does something that pisses you off or disrespects you in any way, then speak up. Even if that person is your boss.
6. Giving a fuck about ending toxic relationships. Some people are bad for us! Some people, even if they’re not cognizant of it, are horrific, TOXIC INFLUENCES in our lives. You have no more fucks to give them or what your life will be like without them – it won’t be a loss, that’s for sure.
7. Giving a fuck about your mistakes. Your mistakes do not define you; they’re merely pieces in your life that have made you who you are. That is all. Mistakes do not hold you back, do not open doors to judgment, or ruin your life. They’re necessary obstacles and not only do you not give a fuck about them, but you’re practically grateful for them.
8. Giving a fuck about fitting in. Some people spend their whole lives trying to fit in only to realize that those who want to belong are just fucking boring! Why would anyone want to be another sheep among millions of sheep? No thanks. Fly your freak flag and roll solo.
9. Giving a fuck about social media. In some not so breaking new, social media is not real life. People “liking” your tweet or “unfriending” you on Facebook is not something to get your panties in a twist over. In other words? You have no fucks to give on this front.
10. Giving a fuck about having the “perfect” body. You have the perfect body for YOU and that’s all that matters. Now reach for those Doritos and order another pizza, for fuck’s sake woman!
11. Giving a fuck about status symbols. Owning a Louis Vuitton bag or only wearing Chanel makeup is not going to make you a better person. Also, who even knows if that mascara is Dior or fucking Maybelline?
12. Giving a fuck about what you can’t control. There will always be things that are out of your control, and when you quit giving a fuck about them you’ll finally feel free.
13. Giving a fuck about not giving a fuck. In life, you need to choose your battles. You need to decide what deserves your fucks and what doesn’t. When you give a fuck, give it 150 percent, when you don’t also give it 150 percent. You should never half-ass anything, especially your fucks.

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JP Bailey, M.A.

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10 Fears Every Codependent Needs To Know, And the EFT Tapping To Fix Them

10 Fears Every Codependent Needs To Know, And the EFT Tapping Tips To Fix Them

During a session with a woman struggling with an abusive husband, she asked me, "As far as that acupressure thing you do, do you rub the points and manipulate them to work better, or what?"

 I said, "No. Actually, you use your fingers to Tap on each acupuncture point. ….Like tapping on a window to get someone's attention…"

 ".....But the trick is to have in mind what you are upset about while you Tap so you can tell if it worked or not".

 "Do you have any issues you want to try Tapping on?

She says she's been trying to lose weight. But she ate donuts for breakfast this morning and was still feeling guilty about it.

So I said, "First, let's Tap on the feelings of guilt so you see how this works, and then we'll go from there.  

"OK", she said.

So, first we Tapped on Guilt.  I asked her on a SUDs scale of 1 to 10 how much guilt she had - and she said it was a "9".

We did 1 full-round and got it down to a "7", and then did a short-cut and got down to a "3".

 She felt "over it".  

 Just to make sure, I said, "Think back to this morning, you should be ashamed of yourself for eating all those donuts".

 She was calm, "Yeah, but it doesn't bother me anymore".

Perfect. This is how I like to see my clients "get it"; by experience.

She said now that the guilt was gone she did have this other issue in her head. 

I asked her, "How does that issue make you feel?"

 She answered, "Irritated and angry!"  She went on to tell the story…

"I gave him a ride to the airport for a business trip where he'd be gone for over 2 weeks. We were stuck there waiting for 4 hours. And, instead of spending those last few hours with me, he was on his phone the whole time with his friends, some of them female, thanking them for all their support. But I was the one all along helping him get this job, and I was the one who drove for hours and did everything to get him ready, but I had to just sit there doing nothing."

 I asked, "On a scale of 1 to 10, irritated and angry you are"? 

She said, "9".

So we Tapped on anger.  She went from a "9" down to a "5" and then down to a "3".

During those rounds, I taught her "Freestyle Tapping", where you Tap on each point and say whatever comes to mind, and really get into it.

She even laughed a little during the Freestyle Tapping. There's something funny about 2 women Tapping on themselves while saying, "..that mother-****  ass &%^&*"  "I'm so (*&*) pissed right now"!!  It's a huge relief to get that all out.

We discussed what fears were behind her guilt and we came up with:

10 Fears Codependents In Abusive Relationships Have To TAP On:

- Fear of feeling worthless
- Fear of feeling abandoned, unwanted
- Fear of being a failure or at fault
- Fear of leaving ex-asshole and then he changes for the better and finds someone else
- Fear of staying with ex and being strung along for another 5 years.
- Fear she is wrong
- Fear she did something wrong
- Fear it was all her fault, fear she failed at fixing it or being good enough
- Fear she would breakdown or have an uncontrollable outburst and embarrass herself
- Fear of being socially ridiculed/looked down on, for such a huge mistake in judgment.

Know that there are thousands of women going through the same thing right now, tapping on their issues, on their way of renewing their (love) life.  I know one more, and I have a feeling she is going to be feeling and doing a lot better by the next time I see her.

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JP Bailey, M.A.

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