Monday, September 11, 2017

Tapping Through a Break Up - EFT with Brad Yates



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Friday, September 1, 2017

This will fix almost any relationship problem.



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Wednesday, August 9, 2017

Clinical EFT The Science Behind Emotional Freedom Techniques | EFT Tapping



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Monday, August 7, 2017

The 9 Symptoms of Depression and the Body Mind Emotions Connection That Heals Them

The 9 Symptoms of Depression and the Body-Mind-Emotions Connection that heals them:

First lets take a look at a real depression assessment tool that clinicians use to diagnose major and minor depressive disorders:

  The 9 Symptoms of Depression


Notice anything about these particular symptoms?


Like how each of the 9 symptoms fit into the categories of body, mind and emotions.

Notice how some of these symptoms don't even seem to be related or go together. But clinical depression involves all three areas because the body/mind/emotions are all exhausted, depleated and not getting stimulated but rather are going in a downhill spiral into worse and worse depression. (Frequency, duration, intensity all increase).

Let's take a look at the body-mind-emotions connection.


Body
1. Trouble falling asleep, staying asleep or sleeping too much.
2. Feeling tired and having little energy
3. Poor appetite or over-eating
4. Moving or talking so slow others have noticed; or being restless and fidgety that you are moving around a lot more than usual

Mind
5. Trouble concentrating on things, reading, watching TV
6. Thinking you'd be better off dead or that you want to hurt yourself in some way.
(Thinking you're a failure or you've let people down - and other negative self-talk)

Emotions
7. Loss of interest or pleasure(Loss of emotion - especially pleasure.
(Sometimes not feeling anything at all "blah".)
8. Feeling down, depressed or hopeless
9. Feeling bad about yourself, or that you are a failure or let yourself or your family down

Four of the 9 symptoms are BODY symptoms....

Two of the symptoms are not depressed feelings, but depressed THINKING...

The main 3 we usually think of as depressed are the EMOTIONAL symptoms, and most people don't know there are 6 other symptoms to look at.


It made sense to me that if the symptoms were Body-Mind-Emotions, ....that the Mental Health and Wellness self-help skills that could help them were also, Body-Mind-Emotional.

Wellness has at least 8 dimensions.... and I also took a look at the 9 basic human needs.

Put all that together in an easy daily routine so the accumulative effect would reverse the course of the downward spiral of depression, and stimulate the upward spiral of recovery. One nano-baby step at a time. But to take steps, one needs a path, which is what recovery is. Taking action toward wellness goals is what the daily routine is all about.

I call it GRAPES, to make it easy to remember. I've been using it for years. I've written other blog posts about it

Get Your Mini GRAPES Workbook Here!

Download your daily grapes and 6 Part depression wellness booklet and videos starting here!

Watch the daily grapes and 6 Part Depression Wellness Videos starting HERE!

Last but not least, neuro-science has finally caught up with what alternative healing practitioners knew all alone: we need a holistic approach (body/mind/emotions) to heal. That's why yoga helps, that's why meditation helps. That's why doing self-nurturing things helps. That's why social support helps. That's why engaging in meaningful-for-you activities help.

All combines they work to sooth the exhausted body-mind-emotions, and, they strengthen the brain's neuro-pathways for wellness habits.

EFT Tapping on each of the SYMPTOMS is a great way to practice Symptom Management and it also speeds up recovery.

Here are Tapping Set Up Statements to TAP ON for Depression:

Body
1. Even thought I have Trouble falling asleep, staying asleep or sleeping too much, I love and accept myself.
2. Even thought I'm Feeling tired and have little energy, I love and accept myself.
3. Even though I have a Poor appetite or I'm over-eating, I love and accept myself.
4. Even thought I'm Moving or talking so slow others have noticed; or I'm acting restless and fidgety and am moving around a lot more than usual, I love and accept myself.

Mind
5. Even though I have Trouble concentrating on things, like reading, or watching TV, I love and accept myself.
6. Even though I sometimes Think I'd be better off dead or want to hurt myself in some way, I love and accept myself.
(Even though I Think I'm a failure or I've let myself, other people or my family down, I love and accept myself.)

Emotions
7. Even though I've Lost interest or pleasure in things I used to enjoy doing, I love and accept myself.
(Even though I Sometimes feel nothing at all or like "blah", I love and accept myself.)
8. Even though I'm Feeling down, depressed or hopeless, I love and accept myself.
9. Even though I Feel bad about myself, or that I'm a failure or that I've let myself or my family down, I love and accept myself.

TIPS:

Measure each one first on a scale of 1-10 how bad it is for you.
TAP on one at a time until the number goes down.
Rinse and Repeat as needed.

Sometimes it takes a few rounds over time to really get some movement and change after being stuck in depression for a while - so DON'T GIVE UP.  Keep Tapping like saying your prayers or brushing your teeth.

Sometimes it takes bringing the numbers down and then "catching your depression in the act" later and Tapping on that at that time, makes all the difference.

Anytime you notice a PATTERN in your thinking or feeling or reacting - TAP on that pattern, thought or reaction.

Now you're healing and moving forward, now you're healing depression and creating wellness at the same time by doing your daily routines

Now you're flushing out stuck energy and creating new neural (and energetic) pathways in the body-mind to move forward into your natural state of being, rather than being held back and stuck.



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Thursday, August 3, 2017

Unloved Daughters and the Culture of Shame -Taking a close look at the elephant hidden in plain sight






Unloved Daughters and the Culture of Shame -Taking a close look at the elephant hidden in plain sight, an article by Peg Streep in Psychology Today Posted Jun 23, 2017.

In the court of public opinion, when the mother-daughter relationship is damaged beyond repair, it’s always the daughter who’s on trial. The cultural myths about motherhood—that all women are nurturing, that mothering is instinctual not learned, and that all mothers love their children unconditionally—both shape and inform people’s responses to the daughter who either cuts her mother out of her life entirely or maintains so little contact that her position is clear to both intimates and strangers alike. The culture sides with the parent—a view bolstered by the authority of a Biblical commandment—regardless of the circumstances.

Most tellingly, when a parent cuts a child off, there’s a sympathetic murmur, an acknowledgement that parenting is hard and that adult children can be difficult. When a parent initiates estrangement, she’s assumed to have pursued every possible solution and, more important, to have tried her hardest and done her best. The culture raises a glass to the parent who tried but failed and lends a supportive shoulder.

In contrast, the unloved daughter never gets the benefit of the doubt. Instead, the culture goes on the attack and labels her as ungrateful, impetuous, narcissistic, and more. She is reminded again and again that she was fed, clothed, and had a roof over head as if having her emotional needs met in childhood were a throw-away extra and that if love and support weren’t extended to her, she has no one but herself to blame. Or that she’s exaggerating or being dramatic since, on the surface, it seems that she turned out just fine. The culture finishes up the job of marginalizing and criticizing her that her mother and perhaps other family members began, and tries to shame her in the process.

As a daughter who cut her mother out of her life (and writes about unloving mothers), I have personally experienced all of these responses. They are the rule, not the exception.

Cultural shaming: The elephant in the room

Cultural disapproval often impedes a daughter’s road to both recovery and reclaiming her life by creating another kind of inner conflict, as one daughter wrote:

     “How do I explain exactly how toxic my mother’s behavior is without sounding whiny and ungrateful? Every time I broach the subject, even with close friends, I see nothing but disapproval. But is filial duty supposed to be painful? Am I supposed to see her when she’s actively out to get me?”

Stories of unloved daughters are the ones no one wants to hear.

Unloved daughters already feel as though they don’t belong because of how they were treated in their family of origin; adding another, more public layer of not belonging by severing or limiting their relationship to their mother is, for many, terrifically daunting. But sometimes it is only way to heal.

Shame and the code of silence

Unloved daughters rarely tell anyone about what goes on in the household during childhood, in part because they assume that what goes on there goes on everywhere. Normalizing how she is treated—even if she actively hurts from being ignore, marginalized, put down, or harshly criticized, or is frightened—is one reason. As she gets older, comes into contact with other households, and begins to see that perhaps what goes on at her house is different, silence may be compelled by the shame and worry that, in fact, she’s to blame for how she’s treated. Since unloving mothers often justify their hypercriticality and verbal abuse by shifting the blame onto their children—saying things like “I wouldn’t have to punish you if you weren’t so clumsy or careless,” “You ask nothing but stupid questions and I have better things to do than to deal with stupid people,” “If you were a better child, I wouldn’t need to yell”—feeling ashamed often becomes the daughter’s default response. That becomes another potent reason to maintain her silence since the last thing she wants to do is broadcast her supposed deficiencies to the world at large.

In adolescence and young adulthood, the need to fit in and be like everyone else, along with continued shame and worry, usually prevent the daughter from getting help and support from her peer group by confiding the truth. While keeping the secret safe, it has the unwanted effect of isolating her even further. After my book Mean Mothers was published, I heard from my roommate from my sophomore year in college; it had been 40 years since we’d spoken. Even though we’d shared a room the size of a shoebox for an entire year, neither of us even hinted at the way our respective mothers had mistreated us. She wistfully commented on how we might have been able to help each other by breaking the silence; I could not have agreed with her more. But how we handled it all those years ago is typical, as I have learned from hundreds and hundreds of interviews.

Shame as a weapon in an unloving mother’s arsenal

Studies show that both abusive behaviors and harsh parenting of children make individuals more prone to feeling shame throughout their lifetimes; some of this doubtless has to do with the fact that sometimes maternal behavior includes actions that are either deliberately meant to shame the child into behaving differently or better, or are the result of the parent’s own inability to manage her own emotions. But being “shame-prone,” as the researchers put it, explains another aspect of how shame plays a role both in a daughter’s wounding and her attempts at recovery.

In their brilliant book, Parenting from the Inside Out, Daniel Siegel M.D. and Mary Hartzell M.Ed. discuss what they call a toxic rupture in the parent-child relationship and how it relates to parental shame as well as inducing shame in the child. (Yes, we are pivoting here to show a possible pattern.) They define a toxic rupture as one which actively harms a child’s sense of self, often a result of a parent losing control of her emotions and threatening, screaming, or calling a child names. (Yes, that’s emotional and verbal abuse.) The child’s feeling of shame produces physical effects such as a stomach ache, a tightness or feeling of a lump in the chest or throat, or an impulse to avoid eye contact. The child internalizes the shame and begins thinking of herself as “bad” or “worthless.” Siegel and Hartzell note that it’s often the parent’s own shame—a result of her own treatment in childhood—that produces the unconscious hijacking of her emotions and facilitates her losing sight of her child in these moments. Instead, she may only be focused on her own powerlessness and incompetence. It’s a horrible cycle which can only be stopped by the parent’s conscious awareness and concerted efforts at repairing the rupture. That doesn’t always happen, alas, as the experiences of unloved daughters attest.
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Understanding shame

Psychologists distinguish between shame and guilt, although both are considered “self-conscious emotions.” Infants are born feeling neither; it’s thought that children begin to experience both in the toddler years. Of the two, shame is more toxic and has a different kind of staying power; while guilt emanates from a specific behavior, shame involves the core self. Interestingly, according to research studies, while guilt can facilitate empathy, shame disrupts the ability to empathize. Why might that be? June Price Tangney and her colleagues opine:

     “Shame’s inherently egocentric focus on the ‘bad self’ (as opposed to the bad behavior) derails the empathic process. Individuals in the throes of shame turn tightly inward, and are thus less able to focus cognitive and emotional resources on the harmed other.”

While the impulse to deny or hide it is extremely strong, shame nonetheless bubbles to the surface unconsciously in other forms. Research shows that shame-prone individuals experience intense anger, express that anger in volatile and destructive ways, and do what they can to externalize the blame. Needless to say, their ability to hold on to relationships is profoundly affected. The lengths to which people will go to avoid feeling shame testifies to the intensity of the pain.

Shame and shaming play significant roles in the lives of many unloved daughters, though they are rarely addressed. Bringing shame and shaming into the light and seeing their provenance with conscious awareness are important steps on the road to recovery.


Copyright © Peg Streep 2017

References

Siegel, Daniel and Mary Hartzell. Parenting from The Inside Out. New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Penguin, 2003.


Tangney, June Price, Jeff Stuewig, and Debra J. Mashek, “Moral Emotions and Moral Behavior,”Annual Review of  Psychology  (2007), 58, 345-372.


LINK: Unloved Daughters and the Culture of Shame -Taking a close look at the elephant hidden in plain sight






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Tuesday, August 1, 2017

Mindfulness NLP for Those Who Hate to Meditate | JP Bailey |From Upset to Empowerment



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Monday, July 31, 2017

Feel Resource States |Recovery Tapping|JP Bailey| NLP





Recall and Feel Resource State of Mind for Recovery and Programming Your Unconscious

1. Watch the video
2. Read each word (resource state) that comes up and feel it for a few seconds. Call it up. Recall the last time you felt it. Just imagine feeling it now.
3. When you feel all your inner Resources like this, you create a very powerful state of mind for yourself. This is where you make better decisions, get things done with more confidence, or just feel better.
4. Use as needed or anytime you feel drained or upset and can't process it right away. Call up your Resource States to help you feel hopeful, capable and resourceful.




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Thursday, July 27, 2017

Feeling Of Endless Pain After Experiencing Narcissistic Psychopathic Abuse [VIDEO Share]



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Tuesday, July 25, 2017

Shame As Central To The Narcissist - Victim - Codependent Relationship [VIDEO Share]



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Monday, July 24, 2017

My Inner Peace Process Heals These 25 Things Survivors of Childhood Abuse Do As Adults

My Inner Peace Process Heals These "25 Things Survivors of Childhood Abuse Do As Adults"



It has been said that “no one escapes childhood unscathed.” But sayings like these can have an especially significant meaning for a person who has experienced emotional abuse as a child.

The effects of emotional abuse can be both debilitating and far-reaching, often extending out of childhood and into adolescence and adulthood.

For many, experiencing emotional abuse at a young age can affect their self-worth and relationships. For some, emotional abuse may even have contributed to a current struggle with mental illness.

One group wanted to know what kinds of effects childhood emotional abuse can have on adulthood, so the group asked their mental health community to share one thing they do now that stemmed from the emotional abuse they experienced in their upbringing.

No matter what your experience of childhood abuse was, it is important to remember hope is never lost and there is help out there.

Here’s what one community had to say:

1. “[I] can’t stand conflict, loud sudden noises, shouting and screaming or aggression in any form. [It] triggers my fight or flight, instantly.”

2. “I can’t accept compliments. When someone [compliments] me, my response would just just be ‘umm yeah’ or I’ll just smile awkwardly. I just figured out why… During my childhood, people just [noticed] my mistakes and not my achievements. So now it is hard for me to accept compliments.”

3. “I’m an overachiever. At everything and anything. I still feel the need to prove I’m good enough. I obsess about doing a job/task to perfection. And then I obsess about how I could do it better. [I worry] about others’ opinions way too much.”

4. “I always feel like I am doing everything wrong… It’s very hard to convince me I am good at something.”

5. “I become apologetic over everything. If someone doesn’t text back, I’ll believe they’re upset with me, and I’ll apologize. If I ask for something and annoy them, I’ll apologize. Everything becomes a situation where I feel like I’m to blame.”5

6. “I’m basically a hermit. My home is my fortress. I have BPD, PTSD and anxiety. It’s so hard to work or apply myself in school or just life when every time I want to apply myself, I can’t help but run to the nearest exit to catch my breath. I constantly fear everyone around me.”

7. “I have problems trusting people. I keep people at [an] arm’s length. I never really let them into my life. I don’t allow them to know of my health problems and my mental illnesses. If I do let them in, it is rare and they [will] have known me for years. It takes a long time [for me] to build trust.”

8. “Indecisiveness. [It feels like] every choice I make is wrong even if I choose the option I’m told to take…I’m afraid to [be a] parent because I don’t want to ‘mess up’ my kid.”

9. “I avoid saying anything that others might not agree with, which means I’m never being myself. I wear a mask of complete neutrality in any situation, because I’m so scared of anyone feeling negative towards me.”

10. “I’m very defensive which can come across cold or nasty. I also portray quite a lot of negativity which seems to be my barrier so I don’t get hurt.”

11. “I have trouble accepting any kind of love because growing up, it was always given with strings attached or used a tool for manipulation. I don’t trust that others have the capacity to love me unconditionally, so I hide away parts of myself, never allowing myself to experience the vulnerability that comes with being loved, chosen and accepted by others.”

12. “I feel the need to please everybody I deem ‘of authority’ and thus have a hard time getting my needs met. I strive too hard for [a] perfection that doesn’t exist, and then eventually, melt down when too many things are not up to the standards held in my past.”

13. “I find myself always explaining my every move. I explain why I bought something, why I did what I did, etc. I feel like people think I’m lying to them, so I owe them a detailed explanation.5 Also feeling as though if I say ‘no’ to someone, they’ll hate me. So even if I’m inconveniencing myself, I’ll say ‘yes.’”

14. “I avoid asking help from anyone because I don’t trust anyone. I believe if someone offers me a hand, there will always be something they [want to] ask in return. I have friends but I don’t have a best friend. I keep my distance from people. Automatically, my wall blocks anyone.”

15. “[I have] attachment issues, trust issues [and am] paranoid that everyone will leave me. A lot of this is part of my BPD. My sudden divorce also contributed to these behaviors.”

16. “I’m overly shy around people and struggle [with] having a voice. [I believe] no one wants to hear anything I have to say.”

17. “[I] won’t let anyone see the ‘bad’ side of myself.”

18. “I constantly think I’m not good enough and I’m not smart enough. [I] was told [this] all my childhood… I’ve gone back to university to prove to myself that I am smart enough, but it’s always there in the back of my mind, like a poison, reminding me I’m not good enough, not smart enough.”

19. “My whole childhood was emotional abuse. It is extremely hard for me to accept I have people in my life who actually care about me. That’s the worst one. I am nothing to myself so why would I matter to others?”

20. “I have a hard time making eye contact with people. I look away a lot when I’m speaking. I get startled very easily and it takes me awhile to get my heart rate back to normal.”

21. “I have major issues with anxiety and depression because of my childhood. The biggest factor is I cannot communicate well and I don’t know how to express my feelings with others because I am so used to just holding them inside because I wasn’t allowed to share how I felt. When tense situations arise, I get nauseous and uncomfortable, [and] my anxiety levels sky rocket. Definitely have a lot of emotional scars from my past, it’s been the hardest thing to conquer.”

22. “I never, ever fight back. I may cut toxic people out of my life with the help of amazing friends and professionals, but whenever a conflict is actively going on that involves someone attacking my character… I completely shut down. I let whatever they want to say wash over me until they tire themselves out. That’s what I had to do when I was younger. It was so much worse to fight back. I learned to let them yell themselves out.”

23. “Blaming myself for everything. I have to fight the urge to beat myself up constantly. I’ve also struggled with feeling like I’m not good enough, which makes things like school, dating and applying to jobs really hard.”

24. “I don’t really know who I am or what I truly think. Virtually everything I say seems to me to be a lie I’ve just fabricated for that particular situation. I have real problems trying to identify what I’m feeling.”

25. “Several things, but the main one was lashing out on social media for years. Controversial and angry statuses, just due to the anger inside of me. I have texts I sent my friend where I described just how much I felt this unsettling anger in my chest. Emotional abuse from peers at school to family [can] really [mess] you up. I then finally found a therapist who could help me and I’ve come a long way.”



You can Use my Inner Peace Process to help you Clear Up any one of those Issues.

See my Video #1 Here: Introduction to the Inner Peace Process, using Guilt for NC

See Video #2 Inner Peace Process for Complex Trauma Guilt for NC




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Sunday, July 23, 2017

"To the Left, To the Left..." NLP Ninja Technique to Move Memories to the Past by Moving Your Eyes to The Left

I want you to listen to the beginning of this song...

...Or the whole thing, ...(It's a great anchor.)

Then I'll teach you my version of an old NLP Technique that I call "To the Left, To the Left" technique. Just think of Beyonce's song, so it's easy to remember.



Ok, so how does this relate to NLP?  Moving memories to the Left gets them out of your way!

How does this work?  Well, we know the eyes are connected to memories, (think eye-movement therapies, rem sleep, etc.) Actually the eyes are connected to how we store and retrieve memories.

Here's a demonstration: Think about your first day of school. Or the color of your first car. Or what your bathroom looks like and notice if your eyes move when accessing memories!

Looking to the Left is actually accessing the Right brain. That's where memories are stored, where facts are stored.

Looking to the Right is actually accessing the Left brain.  That's where we look when we think about the future. The Left brain is where we create visions and use our imagination, intuition and creativity.

In classic NLP training they go even deeper than that into eye positions. They call is the VAK (visual/auditory/kinesthetic), system, which is all about where the eyes move when we're accessing memories, or beliefs.

They figured out that for V visual memories, when accessing images and pictures and movies, that we tend to look Up and to the Left.  For A auditory, when accessing sounds, voices, things people said, things you say or hear to yourself, are Side and Left, think of your ear, for sound.  For K kinesthetic, accessing gut feelings, where we feel things within, are Down and to the Left.

When we're stuck in a bad memory or old pattern, or limiting belief we created a long time ago, the VAK or the image, sound and feel of it is usually right in front of us all jumbled up.

Right in front of us is the present; what we're focused on now. So we definitely want to put this old belief that's keeping us stuck in its right place.

We do that by moving it to the Left.

We tune into the image of the memory or belief, seeing it with our mind's eye and we move it with our eyes. Like a tractor beam, we grab hold of that image with our eyes, and drag it over to the Left and Up with our physical eyes moving Left and Up, and we "put" it there.

Then we go back for the sounds and we grab them and move them to the Side to the Left with our eyes.

Same for gut feelings, literally tune into it, grab it, attack a tracker beam to it with your mind's eye and drag it down to the left and put it there.

Bring your eyes back center. Take a deep breath. Ahhh, that feels better, a little more clear-headed now.

Just that right there is an awesome power tool for what to do with various inner critic voices that come up during the day. It happens all the time. Now we know what to DO with them.  If we keep moving them "to the left, to the left", on a regular, then you get clearer and clearer about your present.

You can focus on your present moment more without being dragged down by the past holding you back by crowding your present, right-in-front-of-you space. That space needs to be clear so you can focus on what you're working on in the here and now.

Moving old beliefs and memories to the Left, makes it easier for you to do what you really want to do in the present, and enjoy it more too. You get much more out of it personally and you'll be able to contribute more to your work and the people you serve when you feel more in tune with your present here and now.

It's a cool kind of "high" in itself when you can engage and zen-out in the present moment, mindfully doing things that are authentic for you.

But wait... there's more.

What about the Right side..... what are we to put there?

Visions of your goals, right?  Wrong. Well, first we need to prime the future with your inner resources, then you can put our goals and visions to the Right.

First we need to get the soil ready for planting, so to speak, if we really want to do this right and grow our organic self.

Step 1:  Write a list of your most favorite awesome memories and moments when you were so happy, ecstatic or full of joy or full of love or felt profound compassion or a moment of knowing and wisdom or a huge accomplishment. Get a good ten or more written down.  I mean, good ones. I want you to read the sentence and not be able to stop smiling when you recall those wonderful moments when all was right with the world and all the stars lined up and it was like a gift and you thoroughly enjoyed it and felt empowered or pure joy or connected or just plain happy.

Step 2:  Now that you got the "To the Left" technique, you start practicing moving things to the left. And then after that, bring your eyes back to center and read off one of your good memories. Picture it, feel it, smile reminiscing over it, and move that to the RIGHT.

Repeat over and over. You pull up these awesome memories and move them into your Future by moving them with your eyes To the Right.

You're taking memories (usually stored to the Left), and putting them - along with the STATE of mind you were in at the time, and the good FEELINGS you had at the time. Notice any self-esteem or confidence that goes with it, and move it all into your creative Right, future zone.

You take the V visual image of the good memory and grab hold of it with your eyes, and move it to the Right and Up.

You take the A audio of the good memory, grab it and move it with your physical eyes to the Right and to the Side.

You take the good feeling in your body from that moment and move it to the Right and Down.

Now you are clearing away old stuff in front of you and moving it back to your past (Left), storing it in it's rightful place in your memories. And, you are creating the vision-feeling-state to the Right, where your future goals are.

You are priming your future timeline with the best feeling-states so that the specific goals you want to create there, will have fertilized soil for it to take root and be welcomed. If you don't put your good memories to the Right your goals may be rejected from self-doubt and inner critic thoughts/feelings.

Take that self-doubt and move it to the Left, take a good memory and move it to the Right.

Got it?

So, you're homework assignment is to try it for yourself.

For the next week, every time old stuff comes up, move it "TO THE LEFT, TO THE LEFT". And, when that's done, read your good memories one by one and move them to the Right, one by one. Do this daily and you've now got 7x the power of your good memories in your creative-vision-future.

I can put a genuine happy moment to my Right and then also see something I want in my future to the Right along with it.

Here's how it works for me:

I get a thought in my head, "It's going to take forever to get my hours and become a therapist and no one's there to help me or egg me on".  I feel sad and alone and overwhelmed.

I take the image of my aunt in my head saying, "you'll never make it" and I move it to the Left and Up.  I take the sound of my head going "It's going to take forever..." and move it to the Side to the Left.  I take the alone sad feeling I feel within and move it Down and to the Left.

The I look straight ahead and I tune into the Here and Now. Wherever I'm at at the time, I acknowledge where I'm at, feel my butt in the chair, look around the room and tune into present time.

THEN......and here's the good part, here's the part that actually makes me look forward to a bad memories/feelings/beliefs hitting me so I can do this technique....  I grab my 4 x 6 index card of my list of good memories, I read the first one, I bust out into a wide smile and I feel happy remembering that happy memory and how it lightened me up and how much fun I had that day, and I deliberately move that image to the Right and Up.

I listen for the sounds around me that day and hear my own laughter, and I move that to the Side to the Right.  I tune into my body and feel that happy memory and I move that with my mind's eye, like a tracker beam, to the Right and Down.

I come back center and feel empowered and happy as I take a deep breath and focus on the here and now and what I'm working on. I let the 'future' go. I don't get into daydreaming all the details and the figuring out how to make my dreams come true.  I just let it go, and I stay in the present with a secure feeling that the future will unfold as it should, knowing its got joy and happiness there programmed in waiting for me and that will help me with my goals when it's time to focus on them.

So that is the "To the Left, To the Left" (thank you Beyonce!), NLP technique for how to move limiting beliefs and stuck memories that are holding you back out of your way in the here and now. It also leads right into how to prime your near-future with good states and feelings by moving good memories and the feelings they contain To the Right.

I find the more present I am, the more my future goals become clear and when I see them, I also move them to the Right.

Try the "To the Left, To the Left" technique once a day for 7 days and let me know what you think.

You can find me here or on my other channels below.  Feel free to share.  Millions are suffering in silence, stuck, not knowing they can change and how to actually do it.

In a week from now I want you to look back and see how your week has been.  Any better? Was this technique useful? Did it help you? Then go ahead and do it again but this time for 30 days!

Enjoy and share it forward.

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Saturday, July 22, 2017

The Inner Peace Process - Give Yourself A Session | NLP Ninja

The Inner Peace Process - Give Yourself A Session | NLP Ninja




Here is an actual "session" of the Inner Peace Process that you can follow along with and clear up an issue.  This is the exact way I facilitate the Inner Peace Process with clients.  I ask you questions and pause so your inner mind can find the answers you need.  If you need to pause longer at any point, just pause the video and then continue on with the next step.

Video: 15 minutes




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Friday, July 21, 2017

Video 6 continued The NLP Inner Peace Process Supplemental Talk on Authority |NLP Ninja

Video 6 continued The NLP Inner Peace Process Supplemental Talk on Authority |NLP Ninja




In this video I go further into the concept of "authority" that I touched on in Video 6 of 6 of The Inner Peace Process as a supplemental video.



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Thursday, July 20, 2017

Video 6 The NLP Inner Peace Process for Adult Children of Abuse Explained | Video 6 of 6

Video 6 The NLP Inner Peace Process for Adult Children of Abuse Explained | Video 6 of 6







In this set of 6 videos, I explain how the Inner Peace Process can clear up the issues from the article, "25 Things You Do as an Adult When You've Experienced Childhood Emotional Abuse".

Each video goes into 5 of the things each, and each video builds on the one(s) before it, in explaining exactly what the Inner Peace Process is, and how it works.

At the end of this series I have another video with the Inner Peace Process method laid out so you too can experience it with me facilitating it on the video. Just bring an issue and listen and follow the directions, and notice the difference.

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Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Video 5 The NLP Inner Peace Process for Adult Children of Abuse Explained | Video 5 of 6

Video 5 The NLP Inner Peace Process for Adult Children of Abuse Explained | Video 5 of 6








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Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Video 4 The NLP Inner Peace Process for Adult Children of Abuse Explained | Video 4 of 6

Video 4 The NLP Inner Peace Process for Adult Children of Abuse Explained | Video 4 of 6







In this set of 6 videos, I explain how the Inner Peace Process can clear up the issues from the article, "25 Things You Do as an Adult When You've Experienced Childhood Emotional Abuse".

Each video goes into 5 of the things each, and each video builds on the one(s) before it, in explaining exactly what the Inner Peace Process is, and how it works.

At the end of this series I have another video with the Inner Peace Process method laid out so you too can experience it with me facilitating it on the video. Just bring an issue and listen and follow the directions, and notice the difference.

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Monday, July 17, 2017

Video 3 The NLP Inner Peace Process for Adult Children of Abuse Explained | Video 3 of 6

Video 3 The NLP Inner Peace Process for Adult Children of Abuse Explained | Video 3 of 6








In this set of 6 videos, I explain how the Inner Peace Process can clear up the issues from the article, "25 Things You Do as an Adult When You've Experienced Childhood Emotional Abuse".

Each video goes into 5 of the things each, and each video builds on the one(s) before it, in explaining exactly what the Inner Peace Process is, and how it works.

At the end of this series I have another video with the Inner Peace Process method laid out so you too can experience it with me facilitating it on the video. Just bring an issue and listen and follow the directions, and notice the difference.
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Sunday, July 16, 2017

Video 2 The NLP Inner Peace Process for Adult Children of Abuse Explained | Video 2 of 6

Video 2 The NLP Inner Peace Process for Adult Children of Abuse Explained | Video 2 of 6






In this set of 6 videos, I explain how the Inner Peace Process can clear up the issues from the article, "25 Things You Do as an Adult When You've Experienced Childhood Emotional Abuse".

Each video goes into 5 of the things each, and each video builds on the one(s) before it, in explaining exactly what the Inner Peace Process is, and how it works.

At the end of this series I have another video with the Inner Peace Process method laid out so you too can experience it with me facilitating it on the video. Just bring an issue and listen and follow the directions, and notice the difference.

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Saturday, July 15, 2017

Video 1 The NLP Inner Peace Process for Adult Children of Abuse Explained | Video 1 of 6


Video 1 The NLP Inner Peace Process for Adult Children of Abuse Explained | Video 1 of 6







In this set of 6 videos, I explain how the Inner Peace Process can clear up the issues from the article, "25 Things You Do as an Adult When You've Experienced Childhood Emotional Abuse".

Each video goes into 5 of the things each, and each video builds on the one(s) before it, in explaining exactly what the Inner Peace Process is, and how it works.

At the end of this series I have another video with the Inner Peace Process method laid out so you too can experience it with me facilitating it on the video. Just bring an issue and listen and follow the directions, and notice the difference.

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Saturday, July 1, 2017

12 Survival Tips for Living with a Narcissist

12 Survival Tips for Living with a Narcissist: Sometimes leaving a narcissist is not an option. A parent recognizes their adult child as narcissistic but desperately wants to maintain a basic relationship. A spouse is uninclined to leave their narcissistic partner for several reasons such as economic, commitment, or (dare I say) love. A child realizes their parent is a narcissist but is unwilling or unable to cut them out of their life. So how can a person learn to live with the selfishness, arrogance, superiority, and entitlement every day without losing their mind? How do they tolerate the narcissist using bullying to control, intimidation to convince, silence to avoid intimacy, anger rages to hide insecurities, and gifting to show love? It is possible and here are a few suggestions: Study them. None of the following tips will work unless a person is willing to step outside of the relationship and study the narcissist. This is essential for gaining more information, learning how to detach emotionally, and resetting old habitual







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Friday, June 23, 2017

What goes around....comes around - My Dad was in the war, and now I'm helping a war refuge

One of my Hmong clients made me an awesome multi purpose bag. This woman can sew! Just perfect and so functional.

It's made like a square handbag, with handles, but another layer in has strings that you can pull which closes it. The strings are long enough to be wore backpack style.

And to make it even more twilight zone, her daughter is mean to her and my mom is mean to me, I need a mother and she needs a daughter to make bags for.

I honor the Hmong people and the Hmong story - the freedom lovers - and am grateful for them helping my dad when he was over in 'Nam. They helped save our American dad's.

And they survive the horrors of real war and have war PTSD, all these years still have it, just like some vets do, and I just happen to be a PTSD expert.  I've been healing it, studying it, embracing it and helping people stuck in it and its the joy of my life to see the light come back on in their eyes. To see them come alive again.

And that's where the Recovery Model and WRAP come in... there's more to life and mental health and recovery then just getting unstuck from the symptoms, it's the perfect time to encourage their interests and engage in their daily life activities and to add into that the Wellness activities of which there are endless ideas for things to do. In other words, wellness is life plus some endorphin producing activities we love to do (sewing) that make life come alive again, in the simple things, the daily routines.

And that's what we did for this lady who made the bags. She made them to say thank you.

Wellness is chop wood carry water, but also color and paint, listen to favorite music, cook a meal with love that feels healthy to you, walking, yoga, animals, writing, helping others, hobbies, fishing, interests, nature, travel, there's just so much to do.

If there is little joy in your life, then focus on these types of activities and you will find joy in the midst of it and it is addictive and has a lingering affect. You just have a smile on your face and a skip in your step a little more. Or at least some relief from being stuck.

All the fatherless Vietnam Vet daughters who also don't have mothers in this American society is so hard to do. We need our mothers. Vietnamese and Hmong refugees are mothers now. Some are unhappy and miss out on mothering in their cultural way because their kids are Americanized and they are integrating into the Western culture, which they need to do to have good lives with good jobs and so forth.  But maybe they are not respecting and appreciating the old country 'backwards' ways of their non-English speaking mothers.

That's ok. It's still great to be in America. And the whole thing is an adventure. Getting unstuck from PTSD opens up a million and one things to do in America.

Now you know they also have their depressed introvert family members and their narcissistic members and so on, so there is the dynamic there of being stuck (husbands chosen for them and married for life) with a spouse that may never once give an ounce of affection. Some of the children may be narcissistic and they are dealing with that devastating (narc abuse syndrome), on top of everything else.

War PTSD and narc abuse and would love to sew 6 amazing handbags to a few social workers that helped her out of her stuck place and gave her hope and encouraged her to do wellness things and she felt better.

She said, "No one ever helped me before but you".  Meaning all these years since Viet Nam war no other social worker ever took the time to listen and know what to look for and know what helps.

Validation, support and encouragement are god sends to these folks. I was her American educated daughter helping her out.  Today she was the mother I never had.. making me things with her own hands.

And by the way, her American daughter thinks she is stupid because she did not finish school and does nothing and knows nothing and yet this stupid woman has sewing skills that need to be passed down to motherless white, black and Mexican women who have narc moms and need a mom figure to be nice to her and teach her to sew.

A sewing circle if you will so many daughters can feel old school mother energy and many mothers can feel love by being a mother. Mothers love to cook for you and sew for you and that makes them feel good. I know, I love it too as a mother.  And there's a lot of mothers who are missing because of drugs and mental health issues and abuse and jail and many things.

Daughters give by letting mothers give to them, and these daughters NEED motherly love.

I wish I could get them together. To match up their needs so they can have some good experiences. Of being loved. Cared about.

It might help fill up the missing wound hole in the hearts of all these women who have gone through trauma in war and at home.

Hmong people helped us in Viet Nam, where my father fought and today I am a counselor with Hmong clients. I never heard of them before. Now I know their story. they were called Freedom Lovers and they helped our men find their way through the mountains they called home. She was just a young girl then, and now she is a mother, What goes around, comes around.


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Thursday, June 22, 2017

EFT Tapping Into The 10 Stages of the Recovery Process

EFT  Tapping Into The 10 Stages of the Recovery Process


Stage 1: Exploration and Discovery (healing and grieving) As you move through the Tasks of Mourning, you will be able to Tap on each one that has any negative charge on it. This will greatly aid in moving it along and will make this stage much shorter and less painful.

Stage 2: Relationship History/Inventory (examine and reset boundaries). You'll clear any blocks in your way from defining or enforcing your private spaces and Tap into empowerment, confidence, calm and so forth, speaking to your heart's needs and resourceful state of mind.  Tapping helps immensely with being honest with yourself.

Stage 3: Addiction Control (stages of change). Tapping can help you get a handle on your urges and cravings. Facing addictions means going through the stages of change:  loss, grief and acceptance, and healing. You want a healthy, resourceful body for as long as you're alive. Be sure to use the Choices method to choose what you want to fill the void of stopping bad habits.

Stage 4: Leaving Home and Saying Goodbye (saying hello to your social life). Tapping helps the grief and pain of saying goodbye to old ways, and old people. Letting go of the old home, where you lived mentally, is much more than saying goodbye to your past and the people in it; it's about clearing the voices in your head you hear automatically when you think of those people. Tap into your longings for connection in ways that fit who and where you are now.

Stage 5: Grieving Your Loss (The 4 Tasks of Mourning). Tapping helps you get through the bottom of the curve and helps you then start going upward. Tap your way through the 4 tasks of mourning:

     1. Accept the reality of a loss

     2. Work through the pain of losing what you lost

     3. Adjust to an environment in which the person or thing you lost is no longer there

     4. Emotionally relocate the loss and move forward with integrating it into your life.

Stage 6: New Self-Perceptions (Inner Resources and Social Support). Tap into fresh or rekindled perspectives and perceptions about yourself and make new decisions. Re-invent yourself. Move into the next chapter. Keep it going with intentional goal setting, planning, routines and be rewarded with increased performance and creativity. Each time you clear up an issue, tap into your new, inspiring list statements and exciting goals you really want.

Stage 7: New Experiences (New Foundations). You will build a foundation of new experiences to bolster the decisions you've just made. Your plan writes out what it's like when you're living the life you want and what sorts of actions you take on a daily basis to stay engaged with your life. Taking these planned actions gives you an experience.

Increasing activities that made you feel good will give you new, needed, experiences and these in turn are like watering a thirsty plant rapidly grows more. Learn your lessons, clear any intensity of distress or resistance. Choose what you want from no on and move forward toward it. Those experiences are giving you a good feeling which is healing your brain which is why you start to think clearer. It may be a new experience to focus on you and not on others. After the experience of being on your own as an adult, you further leave home as nature intended for us to individuate and create our own life.

Stage 8: Re-parenting and Self-Management (Self-Care). You rebuild your past present and future in a sense as you become involved in what we call re-parenting and self-management. Recovery is about wellness and increasing your wellness on purpose, not just the absence of pain.

Loving yourself as you are and daily self-care to experience that, intentionally increasing experiences that make you feel good, valued, special, rested, entertained, important and loved. Tap on the Third Eye point while reading this, or make affirmations out of these self-care concepts and experiences. Tap into good parenting (loving and nurturing and protecting) yourself. It's a great experience we all must give to ourselves, we can't wait for the past or someone in it to give it to us. Tapping on deserving and permission helps a lot during this stage.


Stage 9: Self and Relationship Accountability (love your (inner) self). This is where love and wisdom come together. This is where you love your inner self as much as your outer body and environment. You will take on more responsibility and accountability. You've built the foundation for it. You will live by the principles and values that feel right to you while letting the rest go with faith in things working out in the big picture, and not worrying as much as before. If it's not in today, turn it over and focus on how you're spending your time and grow more responsible about how you spend it.


Stage 10: Wellness Maintenance Action Plan (Daily Progress). As a result of changes and paradigm shifts you've made on this journey, you've grown in love and wisdom, good and truth. You decide for yourself what is good and true for you. You keep an open mind and connect with something inner or higher. We have faith and we go about our daily lives, living out our meaningful roles we chose and try to do the right thing for all concerned, but never forgetting we're adults taking care of ourselves.







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Friday, June 16, 2017

Self-Care for Narc Abuse Survivors |Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome Recovery

A couple months ago I came across a Success Log and what I liked about it was that the first question is:

1. What did I do well in the last 24 hours?

And the last question really grabbed my attention because it's not the question before it that asks "What is one thing I must do?" , it's the next question of what will you feel like if you have to "fight through" resistance to get that thing done? And what will you feel like if you don't?

And it reminded me at the end, that, no matter which I choose - to get something done and fight through the resistance or to lose the fight with resistance and procrastinate, both actions make the groove in your brain bigger.

I did not want to make my procrastination neuro pathway to get deeper or wider or longer. And we've seen these strings of ideas under the microscope. They have actually seen habits shrink when they aren't acted on anymore and new ones grow as they are acted on over time. It's amazing.

I want my mental groove or string of beliefs about having done an activity, got the experience of doing it, feeling good as a result, feeling proud I did it and satisfied knowing it's done.

I don't know, but something about all that put together really revved up my urge to move forward. This was a 'success log' I could live with, that actually helped me, rather than felt like a dream to do list that I could never achieve and wouldn't stick to.

But I have used the Success Log just about every day for a couple months now and I've gotten a lot done.  I LOVE thinking about what I did well in the last 24 hours - rather than jumping right into what I need to do tomorrow or what thing I got to try and force my mind to adopt and memorize and push myself to do.

I get to reflect on what I did well yesterday and that just feels good. I need to be able to generate good feelings like that on a regular basis to continue healing and re-wiring my brain to have a deeper, longer groove for doing things I want to do in my life.

Recovering, well first suffering from, and then recovering from complex trauma, I really struggeled with being able to 'want' anything. I was on survival mode and wanting something or asking for soemthing I wanted wasn't in my programming.

I remember in my 30's asking for the first time and I was so nervous I could barely stand it. I didn't get it but I was heard.

The next time was in my 40's and I remember literally shaking at the time and sort of holding my breath and bracing myself. I was heard and I got what I wanted. I don't even remember what it was now, I just remember knowing and preparing for having to speak up and force myself to ask for what I wanted.

So it's been a huge block in my life to go for what I want, even though I have and I've gotten a lot of what I went for. It was like a determined drive to get it - but I got it all on my own, I didn't ask anyone for help. It just wasn't allowed and I knew I'd get a "no" anyway, so I tried to just hold it down and make it best I could and accomplish things I wanted in life.

Back to the success log.

So the first question is What did I do well in the last 24 hours.

Question 2: what's the one thing I wnt to improve in the next 24 hours?

Question 3: What's one thing I can do differently to help make the mentioned improvement?

Question 4: How did I do in the last 24 hours with my progress on a scale of 1 to 10?

Question 5: What's one thing I MUST do?

Then the rest are reminders:  If I gotta fight through it, and face the discomfort and hardship? How will I feel if I win the fight-through? How will I feel if I lose it?

Rehearse your actions mentally. Find my brrier patterns. Do things to help decrease the barrier patterns. Train every day for what you ant. Doing or Procrastinating; both etch a groove in your mind.


There's a lot of new resaerch out ther about the magical effects of cultivating habits and getting passionate about daily routines that bring you closer to your goals.

For complex trauma survivors, there is an extra step needed; we have to learn how to re-frame the negative self-talk that comes up when we start acting toward what we want.

Luckily I know some fast healing and clearing tools like EFT and NLP to deal with the fight-through and the backlash of the inner critic.

I'm getting things done, but I also feel my confidence has increased. My sense of independent and free self has increased. My sense of self-pride and ambition has increased.  And I know that no one is watching so who cares about others, this is about me focusing on me so I can move forward in life and not be stuck anymore from complex trauma issues holding me back.

Train every day for what you want....Practice these feelings/experiences:

strong
elated
self-affirming
proud
triumphant
powerful
courageous
confident
excited
capabel
hopeful
empowered
alive
fulfilled
glee
smart
competent
accomplished


Self-Care is not  just about brushing your teeth and treating yourself to a bubble bath. It's about developing little habits and routines of wellness, or new life, of things that YOU WANT in it and about goals we want to achieve.

My Goal for June has been to do 1 exercise a day.  I have 7 easy exercises I can do so I don't get bored.  Also I've been doing a lot of cleaner eating, more veggies and fish and no dairy, bread or junk food.

My Monday through Friday routine is to read Calif Law & Ethics material daily. The goal is to pass that test.

My morning routine is making my energy drink in the mornings while I get ready for work.

I have about 5 books in various places, including both bathrooms, so that I read a page at a time but I get through a ton of books a year.

My driving routine is to say my prayers and practice smiling on my way to work.

My night time routine is journaling or coloring or organizing something.

I'm trying a new method of organizing my closet. Everything I wash goes to the front of the closet until I have all the clothes I actually wear right up front.

Recovery is not just about healing the past, it's about creating the future and the best way to do that is to work toward various goals in nano steps daily along the way.

Another recovery routine I write about in other posts is the Daily GRAPES routine.

My recovery routine is to read some note cards every morning that have reminders on them, affirmations and quotes I'm embracing right now.

I read a daily affirmation reader before I turn on my computer.

I read over questions that help me stay on track.

That's why I love a Success Log.  Along with the questions above, I pick the top 3 things I need to get done and 1 thing that MUST get done so that I don't do anything else until I get that one thing done.

The secret to self-care is loving ourselves routines that get us loving ourselves so we build up more experiences of feeling loved. These experiences, and the feelings they invoke, are what heals us. They move us forward so we don't put our lives on hold. So that we have a better chance at creating some balance instead of doing it some hit or miss way.

I never liked schedules and rarely look at clocks, but daily routines help create a whole new life. After awhile it all starts to accumulate and gain momentum and creates experiences that give us much needed emotional responses of happiness and joy, contentment and a sense of accomplishment. They break down big dreams into small daily tasks and makes the fun of enjoying them in the here and now special too.

No more pressure to hurry up and catch up to "where I'm suppose to be before all this trauma happens. I'm doing my daily routines and creating fun and easy habits in the here and now.
One day at a time.



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Saturday, June 10, 2017

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Saturday, June 3, 2017

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Saturday, May 20, 2017

The Empaths Inner Torture - From Fantasy Dreamer to Disappointed Depression - And How to Transmute that into Wisdom

At a Recovery Training today someone happened to share that she had found this great article online about the "Neurology of Disappointment". Since I've been neck deep into neurology these days when it comes to trauma and healing, I couldn't wait to go home and look it up.  I recently found a cool thing on Pinterest about the "Neurology of Anger" and how anger affects the brain. It's a great learning tool for those who struggle with anger.

But before I could get to it, a light bulb went on big time and I had to open my journal and start brain dumping all the thoughts that were just then clicking and forming together.

The neurology of disappointment is like a crash, a hangover if you will. And I saw how that was a huge trigger for depression, right, because during the crash we beat ourselves up and start to neglect ourselves while we obsess on our failures and the disappointment.

But where did the disappointment come from?

Could it be it came from a dreamer who fantasied about his dream of following his heart and calling? The dreamer who fantasies about following her passion and wanting to help people in a deep way with her unique form of wisdom she got from going through a similar experience and now she wants to give back?  Could the dreamer be the brainy-empath personality who love to learn and help others, are introverted and tend to get depressed at times?

They say the best way to learn is to teach and introverts love to learn.

Let me back track for a minute to explain why I added the introvert layer.

I hang out in a lot of cool introvert Facebook groups and one thing I see (that I always kept to  myself), was this fierceness and intense feelings and deep thoughts about them from their anger and revenge fantasies of those who betrayed them, to their intense feeling for others and wanting to save the world. The intense-ness about their art, and their intense-ness about falling in love, and so it makes sens that they have just as much intense disappointment and despair when true love fails.

Introverts are dreams but they are experts at their passions and yet because they are introverts, they don't assertively promote themselves enough to get a success rather than a disappointment. And, because they are so "real" and hate small talk and believe in principles, they are just not into the whole marketing-make-money thing. But their chances to fail and get disappointment increase the more they hide and hope to get discovered or fail to brag about their creations and get them out there.
Then they beat themselves up for being "failures".

I noticed they jump into passionate romances with the wrong person and then burn in pain for decades. They pour themselves into their art only to have no one ever see it. They don't want to brag but then they are hurt no one discovered them. They dedicate themselves to their work and love to learn and to know and to teach and they love books and they love their quiet time.

Now I see the PATTERN of disappointment. Like an addiction cycle: the build up excitement, the procrastination or barrier and lack of action, the let down and crash that it didn't work out.

So.... heal the pattern. Embrace the pattern. See the pattern as your pattern. It's not your fault and you are not a failure.

The trick is to embrace the disappointment so you can go deep into depression to see all the flaws and when you're ready to come out and put it all together as a learning experience of where you went wrong and what you could have done better and how you should have looked out for yourself more and so on. You come out a stronger, wiser and still deep passionate dreamer who should immediately get right back into another dream and pursue it with all you got.

Dreams keep up going. Without them we barely have any motivation to get out of bed in the morning.

We need to feel that excited aliveness of having a dream we're striving for. And we have no problem with that. We know all we need to do it learn it and we love to learn.

So introverts have dreams and fantasies. And some of them are dark.

We have revenge fantasies about those that hurt and devastated us or those who ripped us off and played us, for those that abused us or neglected us or criticized us and pointed out how we not "normal" or good enough, which we internalize and have an inner critic constantly beating ourselves up. Worrying what others think of us and second guessing all our ideas with self-doubt.

Disappointment is a treatable issue as far as Energy Tapping is concerned. We just name it and rate it and then Tap on it and we start healing it that way.

No need to stop dreaming so much time away and start going for it again. We need to take more actions in that time and not just dream and fear and disappointment anymore. No need to give up completely on everything forever, but its OK to take a break from it all too. sometimes we need to process the disappointment to learn from our mistakes and grow wiser.  No need to fear being disappointed which is why we don't even get started on living out some of our dreams. No need to blame ourselves and self-sabotage.

You just attend to the disappointment when your dreams don't work out. Your brain is literally going through like a withdrawal and like an emotional hang-over. It's unresolved and needs to be able to process all the way or it gets stuck there. We get depressed and obsess over it and our inner critic beats us up for failing. All of these issues can be Tapped on with EFT one at a time to start clearing up the emotional hurts and the over all pattern.

You can also Tap on all the rage and hurt behind the revenge fantasies and don't hide those either. Don't be ashamed to have them because it's our nature to have them. They point to where we need some Energy and Neurology healing (where we need to change a pattern, heal the emotion, and transform the thinking, etc.)


The benefit of treating disappointment stories with Energy and Neurology techniques is that it transmutes into WISDOM.  Deep, smart, introverts already have strong intuition and are empaths, so this WISDOM is the way to go. Wisdom helps us respect needs and limits, wisdom helps us make better choices, wisdom is love in action.

If we don't heal and get to wisdom, another nugget of something we learn that makes us better and helps us help others better, then we start taking on people's energy way too much and have problems that empaths complain about that they are hooked into someone else's stuff because they can't help the urge but to want to help. That's the nature of empaths; we feel the world's pain and we are desperate to heal it. We rescue animals and save wales and cry for the children.

Or, we go the other way and cut others out of our life and hide in our isolated introvert-ism and stop trusting people all together because the disappointment is just too much. What if it were just our learning to set boundaries to demand love and respect in return and to re-wire our neurology to seek out like-minded people and not be slave to repeating the same patterns forever?

We could be so much more and contribute to the world so much deeper and profoundly if we heal our disappointed dreams and fears and transmute it with our healing techniques into wisdom, and share that with (the right) people.

All shamans, even wolves, will go off on their own for periods of time and suffer. They learn something deeply important that they then take back to the tribe or the pack and teach the others. It's been seen over and over countless times over the human timeline. It's our nature. It's ok to be a loner and go through a long depression, just don't think that that is the end. It feels like it is, but it isn't. We can heal our issues and then begin to cultivate growth and healing and true wisdom for having gone through hard times. Then depression turns into some major regroup and re-processing times rather than self hating and neglecting and isolating times, stuck in pain and apathy because our brains are literally stuck and the energy there needs to move and be able to process.

Some process with therapy, some with EMDR, some with exercise, some with a coach, some with a new adventure, some with art.  I love all of these, but EFT Tapping is fast, easy and free and you can get so much more done with it in a shorter amount of time, so I prefer that modality.

It does not matter how you process, just be aware that you can process your disappointment crash and it can lead to wisdom and dreaming again. It doesn't have to mean the end of your dreams and never-ending depression. Especially non-productive depression where we go downhill further. There is a way out. Just the thought that there may be a way out, is the first step of the upward spiral of recovery. It's called hope.

The more you embrace your nature, including depression and disappointment, the less you beat yourself up and the more you feel OK with being your unique, imperfect, wise, bad-ass self.

When we're not getting our needs met or not seeing our dreams come true or get disappointed in other people around us, we can get very irritable and angry and resentful and want to lash out. We have our passionate anger issues to embrace too. Or we can get very disappointed and scared and isolate.  But if you were to TAP on your feelings of disappointment, pain and anger, you would then be processing and moving toward your growth and renewed dreams again rather than staying stuck in it.

So add "Disappointment" to your list of things to watch out for and TAP on to clear out the stuck patterns so you can evolve and move on to the next better thing and easily drop the old dream that didn't work and get back to what you really want instead and create your next dream.

Be prepared to have hundreds of dreams and many will disappoint you but some will thrill the heck out of you and will feel like it's all been worth it.

Use EFT and other Energy Tapping techniques to resolve and transform some of the old negative thinking that no longer works for you along the way so you won't have old stuff as barriers that keep you from your new stuff you're doing.

Anyway, I just wanted to capture my excitement at learning that disappointment is a crash and I put that together with how introverts are dreamers and they also tend to get their hearts broken and their dreams smashed and disappointment too many times can lead to giving up and not feeling their dreams or themselves matter.

So by pointing this out I hope to make introverts aware that they can TAP on their disappointments to help them move on and get excited about their next set of goals and dreams that they want to immerse themselves in. It feels good and natural for us to be in our passion and to be expressing our art and teaching our wisdom.

Tap on disappointment and get wiser while at the same time clearing out the old disappointment that holds us back from trying again. But this time you'll try again a little wiser and a little less weighed down from old stuff.

Tap, tap, tap and clear that stuff out of your system and Tap into new choices. Always look for patterns and really Tap on those with determination and you will be richly rewarded.  The reward is in the ability to go for your dreams no matter how many times you've been disappointed and coming our stronger on the other side.

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Wednesday, April 26, 2017

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Sunday, April 9, 2017

Recovery Tapping Tips for Trauma - Notes from a Psych Nerd |JP Bailey

I've been reading books on trauma, taking trainings and digging into my collection of trauma notes and materials and have been wanting to write up a few things for my "Trauma Wellness Recovery Doodle Booklet" I'm putting together for a trauma class.  (I've already done one for depression for my depression class.)

1. I think one of the best points I've read is that Trauma is diagnosed based on memory (of an event) and so logically you might think that the treatment is about the memories, but not so...

2. Trauma is seen behaviorally (what others see in the person suffering from trauma) - they outwardly appear as irritable and angry and lack engagement with people and keeps people at a distance. So, logically you might think that the treatment is about anger and stress management, but not so fast...

3. Trauma is experienced as feeling disconnected, feeling different, lost, loss of hope, loss of interest, questioning life/god/purpose/meaning, not feeling they belong, guilt and grief. So... logically you might guess that treatment is about helping the person CONNECT and ENGAGE in their own life and with others.  This treatment would look completely different from the treatments in the first two.

4. Self-Help and Alternative Treatments that help trauma that I know of and have experienced and used personally and professionally are: somatic mindfulness, Qigong, yoga, EFT/Tapping, NLP, Emotrance, EMDR, and the body-oriented 'Trauma Release' method.

5. Wellness treatment would be about developing a daily routine of wellness, self-care and self-love, social support from others recovering from trauma and dealing with emotional flashbacks (see Jeff Walker's book "Complex PTSD" and read his '13 Steps To Managing Emotional Flashbacks'.)  The more times you read it, before, during and after emotional flashbacks, the better it works.

6. The best help from others would come in the form of validation, validation, validation.

So - Gold Nugget of Wisdom from the above is, 

"Don't focus on the diagnosis or the symptoms, focus on the inner experience and on wellness treatment (develop wellness routines) which in other words is helping with self-nurturing, self-care and self-love."

Feeling safe is the big issue, so loving self and being supported is a huge factor before someone is ready to work on connecting and engaging with others again. They first need to connect and engage with themselves and their old interests and their strengths and accomplishments and hobbies, art, nature, relaxation, pet therapy, etc.

Rather than focus on memories of the past, or actions and behaviors of the present, focus on activating interests in the near future. Make it easy and fun and help yourself by seeing yourself doing it later today or in the next few days.  One of the easiest ways to do this is to give yourself some coloring sheets to color and color for relaxation for 5 minutes this week. Then build on that.

You're teaching yourself to move and to move forward and to move forward into recovery by doing something for yourself now - even while going through pain and issues and depression, etc.  Doing is not thinking, not analyzing, not trying to feel or not to feel anything, just focus on the DOING (engages yourself in activity, connects you with your creativity), see yourself doing some coloring in the near future.

Validate the present, empathize the past, but focus on the near future taking baby steps into engaging in life again.

Recovery

1. Focus on self-care and safety

2. Use EFT/Tapping to decrease distress with relationship issues such as codependency (see my book at the end of this post, "EFT for Codependency").***

3. For domestic violence or child abuse survivors, I suggest a daily reader such as "Encouragements for The emotionally Abused Women" by Beverly Engel. (See it on the right-side panel or search on Amazon for it.)

4. For grief there is a daily reader type book called "Dance With Grief" by Christina Rasmussen.

5. For abandonment there is a little book called, "Black Swan - The Twelve Lessons of Abandonment Recovery".

6. Books on healing from Narcissistic Abuse are helpful to many.

7. There are a lot of YouTube videos on all of these topics to find comfort, validation and good tips.

8. Fake your way through acting or thinking about your interests, do something that gets your attention, give yourself approval and permission and homework to do things you used to do even if you don't feel like doing them. Going through the motions of doing them helps the interest slowly come back.

9. List of 81 Self-Nurturing activities are very easy and gentle and helpful when you can't think of anything to do.  (It's part of my "Miini GRAPES Booklet" Click here for your copy. )

10. Lastly, get psycho-education on PTSD and Trauma. Educate yourself, discuss it with others who are trauma-informed, read about it.

Often times there is depression also.

I've read that depression is caused by two things:
1. unmet needs (see the 9 Human Needs article)
2. lack of pleasurable activities which stimulate the brain's neurotransmitters to produce feelings of safety and well-being.

It makes sense to treat yourself by first attending to your human needs and then scheduling in your calendar pleasurable activities a little at a time.

If you go on living with unmet needs, you feel pain and fear. Painful memories of not getting your needs met are always being triggered and fear of future needs being met are always being doubted.

So, deal with pain, fear and anger around your unmet needs and start adding in pleasurable activities to meet those needs.

Think of 3 things you can do each day to do this that are easy or fun or both and do them like brushing your teeth, make it a habit or part of your regular routine.

Create a new routine that addresses your human needs. This can grow over time, it's easier to start out slow.

Deal with barriers, negative self-talk holding you back, triggers and red flags by creating a list of strategies of your favorite coping skills.

Chart moods and activities so you can see how they affect each other.

***Note: "Thought Field Therapy (TFT) for the Treatment of Post-Traumatic Stress Symptoms" is one of SAMHSA's National Registry of Evidence-based Programs and Practices".  TFT is another form of EFT Tapping. So even the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration  has approved of and agrees there is evidence for using Meridian Energy Techniques (Tapping) for PTSD symptoms.

Tapping helps take the charge out of distressful emotions, decreases the intensity of painful and stressful emotions and helps the brain think more clearly as a result which aids the recovery process.

Tapping is like "acupuncture for the emotions without the needles". There are tons of YouTube videos with Tap-A-Longs to follow so you can start using it right away.

A note on fear.  When you feel fear, write down what you are scared about and then question the assumptions you have that are scaring you. Then explore the opposite of our worries, focus on what might be gained if we changed our actions (to more recovery actions), What if you get better? What good can come of this?

Instead of letting fear take over your mind, ask your mind what would help you right now. Rewrite your fearful stories to ones with happy endings. Fantasize not about what bad might happen, but about what good might happen. What would be optimal for you at this time? Day dream about that.

It's OK to feel fear, just make sure you also put your mind on the opposite of fear because we don't know what will happen in the future. We are free to fantasize about the worst or best case scenario.

For every negative, try to think of 5 positives. An easy way to do this is to do a gratitude list. Think of 5 new things you're grateful for every day.

Learn techniques and processes that help you connect with your inner self so that you will be able to later connect with the outer world, people and experience again. You might find that you do so even better than ever before as you practice these healing suggestions.

"When worried or depressed, do art or work", is a quote I read years ago and can't remember where, but I remembered it and used it many times.

I either lose myself in art or engage in a goal-directed activity like work, house work, yard work, whatever, and both of these activities have helped me get out of myself and give me a relief.

Doing nothing makes you feel worse and lets your head take over even more, beating yourself up, further lowering your mood and fatiguing your body. Doing work or art helps you break up that pattern. Forgive yourself for failing to do any of these tips. Each day is a fresh new day to give it another try.

Write a "Success Log". Every day write down what you did successfully that day.

Re-live successful and positive experiences from the past.

Learn to re-frame negative thoughts. Ask yourself, "what good can come of this"?

List your favorite songs. Listen to them more often.

Try yoga poses or just stretch during the commercials if your stuck on the couch.

Practice seeing yourself having positive experiences with others and doing positive things in the future. Even if you can't see yourself doing them now, see yourself doing them in your future. Use the wonderful tool of your imagination!  Your brain takes that in as a goal and a hope to shoot for. The more you think on positive things, the more etched the groove gets in your brain's neural pathways.

Same goes for the more you procrastinate or let your mind beat you up or scare you, which continues the downward spiral of doing nothing, feeling bad. So it's a huge chore to do, but, what else is there to do? Just make yourself do it one time.

You only have to do 1 thing to get the upward spiral started. You'll go through ups and downs, but keep focusing on recovery tips above, pick your favorites, and you are self-healing and supporting the upward spiral of recovery.

"Face The Lion. Be The Lion" 

Finally, it takes courage to recover, you may have to fight your way through to it, but you can face your fears and embrace your courage. Use these tools to help you. You're not alone and you're not the only one. These tips have been used by thousands of sufferers who report recovery helped them feel better and get their life back on track. Even if it takes a long time... time is going to go by anyway, so now is a good time to start planting seeds of your intention to recover and heal.


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